okay dear. We share our stories/problems so others can connect with us and help. Thats how support helps. You cant possibly help someone that you are unaware of their problems. If you into something blind sided you usually do more hurt than help.

i agree with hidden.also this support group is better than "healthyplace" who judge the way u cut or how old u are. i hate that group. anyway..do what u think is best. good luck

also i do the tatto/pirecing and less cutting as well..so what?...u can still come and help others instead of whine on how bad this support group is, or how u cant find anything. i'm NOT trying to be mean..but i'm so tired of people on here who think this isnt the best group for them and like to post it. dont u think that might start fights? if u think this is not the group for u..or if u think this group doesnt have what you "need" then go look elsewhere instead of posting it.

bloody, that's a bit harsh...

mentallylost, i know how you feel.. it's hard to post about your issues because it really can trigger other people or give them new ideas, and all of that. I personally don't spend a lot of time here simply because it doesn't really help me to post anything.. nor do i know how to help others.. really, i don't know why i'm here.. hummm..

anyway, groups are different for everyone the same way a particular therapist may work for some people and not others. if you're not getting help, then this isn't the place for you because you need to be some place that makes you feel comfortable and well. good luck in your search.

how is that harsh?...and i did say i was sorry if i sounded mean.

and i did wish her the best and was sorry if i SOUNDED mean. fuck..screw it all i'm trying to do is help and i always manage to screw someone's day up and i wasnt even being mean. maybe i should just not say anything anymore. or voice my opinion anymore. i'm sorry to everyone. god now i just want to cut. :(

I am not looking for methods bloodyandtore, mine are oh to well set, I use self torture, I split my toenails and pull pieces out if you must know, I feel like I freak. I have never admitted that to anyone. I do not know how to talk about it sry, ty for making me feel like $h!#.

bloody, you may not have been trying to sound mean, but you did. it seemed like you were berating mentallylost instead of being supportive.

but i was being supportive. i even said if i sounded mean..i'm sorry. so how is that harsh or unspportive. i'm so tired of making everyone on here happy. i'm done. i'm sorry to anyone i hurt by accident. i should have known that i screw up everyones freakin life. i'm sorry. i'm done with ds. i dont want to go but at this rate it seems no matter what i say or how many good post i put out there..i will screw up someone's day anyway.

Think we are so close to the same we clashed in our 1st meeting, I am a very deep and dark critter and I see my self in you bloodyandtore I need support and feel bad that I can not tell other ppl without fing things up.

i feel like i get a lot of support here...i am a bit concerned about triggering people, but i just put that it may be triggering in the title, and hope that people use good judgement.

if you ever need to talk i'm here.

i know how you feel.
Thats how I feel about this site right now.
but Im trying anything right now to feel better. Im self destructive, borderline, bipolar, I have anxiety. Any support is better than no support. People on this site are more supportive than my own family.

im sorry that you feel that way, but if DS is not helping you than you should quietly bow out and take your leave, dont rag on those of us who do find DS helpful. and yeah i too get tattoos and piercings and burn and pick, but tats are a lot more expensive than a pack of razors. im sorry that you dont find this site helpful. but for some of us ut is. i find it offensive that accuse some of us about lying, or using si to fit in. i certainly dont, and i think that you are only trying to start a fight.

Mentallylost, she wasnt trying to make you feel shit.
Its very upsetting when people come on here and bitch about the site. If you dont like the site then thats fine, find somewhere else that will help but you shouldnt bitch and moan about.
You are not a freak you just do it differently than others and its not your fault.
People on here are very willing to help and give there support but they cant help you if your not willing to share. I know it can be very hard and difficult but you have to make the first move. You cant expect other people to do things for you.

I hope you find somewhere that helps.