Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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timharold
timharold
my spouse tried to commit suicide and has been scratchin and makin hurself bleed she is getin help but i find it hard to cope with this thanks
ArtistMWS
ArtistMWS
I'm glad your spouse is getting help but I know it can be daunting when you are trying to help her at home and be supportive; it can be draining. You might consider seeking a local group for people married to someone who tried committing suicide so that you can get some support for yourself too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
im so very sry to hear that ur wife has tried to do this, but i thank u for trying to help her, continue to be supportive and let her know that u are there and will always be, she has to be feeling lonely to do this, reashure her she is not, THANK U FOR BEING THERE FOR HER
!!!!!!!! u are a very awsome husband!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
It can be very hard to cope with this type of thing, especially when it's someone you love. Just know that she is in pain. There is something going on in her head right now that's just not sitting right with her. More than likely, she doesn't want to hurt herself, but at this time, she may not know of any other way to resolve whatever it is that's bothering her. I know that you love your wife. You wouldn't have posted a comment if you didn't. I am a cutter as well. I haven't posted any stories yet because I'm afraid to open up. But if I may, let me just give you some of my advice. You are more than welcome to reject it. But, since I've gone through and am continuing to go through the same thing, I know what it is that I would like in my life that may help me with this serious issue.

Make sure that your wife knows you LOVE her. I'm not saying that she doubts your love, but just go the extra mile to make certain that she knows this. Don't be afraid to tell her how you feel. Tell her it worries you. Tell her how important she is, and that whatever the problem may be, you'll help her get through it. Tell her she is not alone, and that you are there for her. This may not help, but it's worth a try. I often wish I had that. Someone to tell me they care, and that they love me. But, I don't. Your wife does. She has you!

You say she's getting help for this issue, and that's great. But I tell, nothing means more than the support from a loved one. Without it, it's sometimes impossible to survive, or recover.

You seem like a good guy, genuinely concerned for his wife. Stand by her, and believe that she will get better.

Good luck to both you and your wife.

Kris