same thing with me too i feel this way always and now i think i am used to it and fed up to think about it.it meakes me frustrated.for quiet a while now i say to my self i dont care if they understand or not it doesnt matter to me butt to be honest it does but to admit it gives you pain

course it matters but it just seems that no-one cares what you think and it seems as though they try and avoid talking to you.it really annoys but they dont seem to notice how upset it makes you feel.

I feel this way all of the time, but in retrospect it's because the people we're relying so heavily on for support are to some extent oblivious to the real suffering that's going on because they haven't experienced it first hand. Unless they take the initiative to better educate themselves on the subject - no matter how many times you tell them how, what, why and when - they'll only understand to a certain extent.

I've only ever told a few of my friends and my general practitioner that I cut so my family is unaware of my self-harm. I think if I told them I wouldn't have a definitive answer as to why I've done the things that I've done. Albeit I'm not as bad as some people out there, but it would still raise alarm bells and lead into a conversation about things I'd rather not talk about.

It hurts and it can be frustrating and annoying trying to explain something that you might not even fully understand to someone who doesn't understand at all. Trust me when I say I think we've all been there.

the thing is though is that my big sister has self harmed (as have a few other family members) in the past but she doesn't seen to even understand it.i suppose that its different for each person though.

Yeah it is different for each person. I'm surprised that your sister and the other members of your family aren't receptive to you if they have first hand knowledge. I wouldn't know (I'm just speculating) but maybe it's because they're dealing with their own issues? Most people can't deal with the added stress and can exhibit selfish behavior because of it.

There's some things in life that defy understanding. I used to think no one cared or loved me because they did not understood why I hurt myself. It was more important for ME to understand so I could find better ways to handle urges. It helped me to say, "I'm glad she doesn't understand because that would mean she probably has gone through what I have and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy". It helps put it in perspective.

yup.......my parents don't believe i cut for the reasons i do it, so the meaning is lost to them.....and i feel that no one understand me....lately i think only Lady Gaga and m therapist understand me....

Your right no one understands you, everybody's pain in life is more different.