Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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justtrying2cope
justtrying2cope

less than a year..
It's been 9 months. thats the longest I went without cutting, and today i broke..


I cave in.


and im sorry.


im so sorry.


i dont want to do this anymore. i dont understand why I am I like this... 


how can i be in a healthy relationship if im unwell. can i ever be in a loving healthy relationship without being a burden to the one I love? i have BPD. i thought i was getting better, but i got triggered.]



I was so close... 


but the urge took over. i didnt recognize myself. and then, i just wanted to keep going... why try getting better? 

Pup
Pup
You don't need to say you're sorry. Cutting is a coping mechanism but just not a very good one. Is there something else that interests you? Writing, doing a puzzle, reading? Anything to take yourself away from the thoughts and give you a sense of accomplishment?

Hell, even some bad coping mechanisms can be better than cutting. I smoke (which everyone hates but f**k them if it works for me).

And speaking of accomplishments, 9 months is a long time. Be proud you've done that. But it's like AA, you relapse (which is normal), and you get back on the horse and take it a day at a time. Feeling bad cuz you slipped doesn't help. You're stronger than you think. You can do this.

And people with BPD can have healthy relationships (I've seen it). It's just a matter of finding an understanding partner.