Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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Karateka 03/21/2009

My friend was checking up on me to make sure I wasn't cutting and we got in to a whole discusion and I told her one time when my mom got all suspicious of me she asked me are you suicidal, do you not want to be here I was annoyed because I know I'm not and it bugged me that that was the first thing she would say...
But anyway my friend is all like yeah well you have to be or your just doing it for attention and that really offended me because I don't want attention , I'd rather stay in my room alone, I can deal with being invisible for my life, I know I didn't do it for attention because if i did I would be wearing t shirts and waveing my arms in everyones face, and I don't do that I just couldn't control my anger and I took it on myself and it just spiraled down from there but it gets me upset because I feel like I'm being a whiney brat or something. Now I love my friend to death but she can be so simple minded sometimes and It frustrates me, she's 16 and she thinks she knows everything
So is that the way it is your suicidal or an attention getter (not trying to upset anyone I'm just confused)

BlackSkyLS14 03/21/2009

It doesn't have to be either. There are tons of reasons and everyone is different. It can be related to alot of things. But you're not automatically suicidal or just attention getting cause you're cutting.I'm sorry your friend and your family aren't being really supportive. I think alot of people have a hard time even comprehending why you'd want to do this so they feel very uncomfortable with that and struggle with how to react. Ultimately, you are the one who really knows why you cut not her or your family or anyone else. and your reasons are just as valid as anyone else's.
If you don't mind getting your friend upset, I would simply tell her to get out. You don't need her opinion about this and you aren't interested. It's not her job to check on you and she needs to leave you alone or else. Then just go on and immeaditely talk about something else. She may throw a hissy fit but it will help in the long run for you to set down some guidelines. If she knows you won't tolerate stuff like this, she'll quit.

deleted_user 03/21/2009

When I was really little it was for attention... I was only 5. After that it was just for me mostly... to get out my rage and frustration. I became secretive, so it wasn't for attention. I don't do anything life-threatening so it isn't suicidal either.

deleted_user 03/21/2009

in my opinion it may began to be for other reasons then attention or sucide.
but i feel the more you do it and usually you end up having despression as well as SI it just seems to go with it. that once life gets tougher you can become sucidual cuz you have the power to end it. just tho my experiences n people ive seen i know its hard for friends to accept SI its just one big stigma these days n u dont need such negative opinions from a friend

deleted_user 03/22/2009

No its not true like Ridetolive said there's many reason why one SI's.

Maybe you should ask your friend to do some research online and to leave you alone about it.
Have you told her, calmly, why you feel the need to cut.
Its difficult for people to understand, especially if they can't pinpoint exactly why.

!!Stay strong!!

deleted_user 03/23/2009

I didn't realise this until a doctor told me but when you get a cut, your body automatically sends endorphins rushing round your body (happy hormones). They are the bodys natural pain relief... so physically thats the "release" and "rush" we feel to ease the pain of a wound.

There is not a soul in the world that knows about my self injuring and i am constantly paranoid that someone will find out! so its not for attention seeking and i never do it in a life threatening way.

deleted_user 03/23/2009

It's true, most people really don't get it. Most people haven't got tothat point when they need to do that. I don't think they know that is a NEED, it's non just a random descision, things build it up. Most people don't understand that blind desperation and the absolute torture most of us are in to get to the point to do this to our selves. Most people I have talked to have been pretty uneducated on the subject, and think that cutting is either a suicide attempt or attention seeking. It's annoying, but at the same time I'm glad that most people don't know this feeling.

deleted_user 03/23/2009

I am glad you put this post up, because i have a friend who also thinks taht most people cut for attention, i havent told her about me, and sometimes i wonder if its the case or not as well,

i dont think it is thou, because i dont think im suicidal.. and i dont want attention...

deleted_user 03/23/2009

i agree with sally, my pdoc told me the same thing

deleted_user 03/24/2009

I don't do it for attention. I wish people would just ignore my scars when they see them. I think that cutting and being suicidal are different. You don't have to be a cutter to be suicidal, and you don't have to be suicidal to be a cutter. Some people just have more than
one problem. Yeah i cut and i'm suicidal-but the two don't feel connected.

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