Self-Injury Support Group
Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.
How do u explain what's wrong when u don't no ur self?
When they want to support you and help u feel better but there's nothing they can do. How do you get them 2 understand without them feeling useless?
What do I tell my husband to do next time I scream the house down for over an hour without being able 2 tell him why?
I don't no what I would do if it where the other way round.
Please help me as I'm lost as to what to do.
When they want to support you and help u feel better but there's nothing they can do. How do you get them 2 understand without them feeling useless?
What do I tell my husband to do next time I scream the house down for over an hour without being able 2 tell him why?
I don't no what I would do if it where the other way round.
Please help me as I'm lost as to what to do.
You may not know whats causing your condition until you desire to break down the barrier by directing your mind to face the fear. You do know that the incidents of uncontrollable behavior occur during those troubling type of circumstances, and so does your husband. And it is easier to look for the meaning during the moment of the stormy behavior and not afterwards. And sometimes these events are repeated in various ways in response to what triggered the previous episode. So the issues should be easier to pinpoint if you take the time to face off with your fears. At that time, advance toward setting your goals to console you. Keep in mind that its not useful to wait until things cool down to attempt to discuss whats troubling, as many do because of how fretful the victim appears as. And this is natural to want to avoid further complication of the matter. Many shocked and bewildered supports struggle to remain quiet, calm, or even shutdown in conversation so that the victim will not become more fearful and restless during the self-questions and merciless cries for answers. But this really is the best time to dig in to the matter for the purpose of better understanding and planning a useful form of attack or proper strategy for better control of the matter. During those times of commotion, encourage your husband to no longer yield or surrender to calming you down, but instead go straight to the total concerns that overpower you for meaning and to define what triggers you. And this is not to badger you, but to influence you to develop a keen eye of which dark emotions threaten you, and he should persuade you to think deeply for what might be troubling you, because then your mind is not totally blocked, and the problems will become more clearer and noticeable to deal with.
As Kelly tells you, he wants to help and understand your concerns for what the matter is that's causing your situation. Also, welcome, Kelly, to DS. I see that you've been a supporter for only a short while and you are doing great!