i got tattoos to cope with my anger i dont no why it helped a bit but it did. i wouldnt recommend that if u dont like tattoos. ummm i write poetry or just write a whole loada junk down n rip it up. i cant find a perminent thing to help me cope though

The unhealthy way I dealt with it was physically hurt the man I was because he was/is the reason I was so angry. Didnt get me any where but feel guilty and then I would go cut myself.

After breaking up with him almost two weeks ago...

How I deal now is write journals about it, pray, talk out loud about and since I live in a condo by myself I'll scream into a pillow until I am crying. Those all help me, but talking here or to a healthy support on the phone are the two that work the best for me.

Swallowing it doesnt and thats what causes me to explode over something small, get into a blind rage and hurt people because then I cant control the anger at all, it controls me.

But yet it is still me that hurts people I care about and love.

I find that practicing mindful meditation is helpful, if you are a reader, you might like to read some stuff written by Thich Nhat Hanh a Buddhist monk. He has written a book on anger which I am just beginning to read as I only got it on Friday! I have found the meditation practice helpful!

Thanks, all!
I'm considering some ink. :) Always wanted at least one. Maybe another piercing or two ... too!!!
Meditation would help if I could calm my arse down in the first place. Once I'm calm, I find I can meditate. But if I immediately try meditation, my mind is still racing so fast, it frustrates me & makes the anger worse.
I think we always hurt those we love the most. I know it's cliche. But I think it's true only because those are the people to whom we are most emotionally vulnerable.
Thanks again everyone for the hints!

funny, i haven't been on for a long while (discussion boards are so lonely w/out instant gratification) and this is a perfect question for me to ask and answer....i don't let my anger out much, but it is a separate being of rage when it does...that's why i'm not as much a cutter rather i beat myself up, concussions, arms always bruised near broken...etc. Today, this day, i did all 3!
i let my boyfriend upset me, once alone i punished myself and later when he returned, i did what my counselor has told me to do, with improvisation =S i'm supposed to hit a mattress with things like a bball bat or something. since i felt a suicidal idealization becoming true with such veracity at that instant, bed and bat not close enough, i took my boyfriends cane (he broke his ankle and wasn't using the cane) and beat the shit forever and tore the hallway door down. then i had to hear later how he'll call 911 if i hit another door again like that )and it's MY damn door!...funny, i bought a punching bag, not strong enough to find the ceiling studs and hang it.

long-story-short, i had already done my pain-ful regime, but after that door...i felt better than horrible. i suggest a door, better yet a punching bag.