How sad! It must be so overwhelming seeing your brother get caught up with this self destructive way of coping. Here are some of my thoughts...First off I would pray for him. Talk to him. Tell him your story of self harm. Perhaps when he hears the reasons why you hurt yourself maybe he will see his own reasons for burning himself. Ask him what he is angry about. Tell him that you love him. Often times my self destructive behavior was done because I hated myself. Talk about his positive characteristics. Encourage him. I would suggest going to a therapist together. The most important thing is to listen to him with out judgement. He needs to be heard. I wish you all the best!

I've been through something similar with my sister, except she was struggling with an ED. But I recognized the warning signs right away, and I accidentally found myself in a really difficult situation. It's so hard to see someone you love struggle, and it's even worse when they don't want help, or don't think there is anything wrong. My sister was in serious denial about the severity of her ED; she thought that what she was doing was not harmful to her at all, and that she had it under control. Honestly I think the best thing you can do in these kinds of situations is just to talk to him. Share you experiences if he's not already familiar with what you've been through. Let him know that you are there, and that he can come to you whenever he is ready. It's impossible to force someone to get help for something if they don't believe they need it, so try not to start an argument or force him into anything; in my experience that only created more drama and harmed my relationship with my sister, as well as her trust. Just be there for him, talk to him, and let him know that you understand what he's going through.

I can relate to Crazypants' comment; I have an ED, and I don't want to recover from it. The best suggestion I can give is, like Crazypants said, talk to him. I have people in my life who hold me accountable so I no longer can cut. Doesn't mean I've stopped self harming in other ways but now I'm clean from cutting and that accountability could have prevented infections, cutting myself too deep, etc. etc. So yeah, I would say just talk to him about it and share your concerns and experiences, and how you understand the drive to self harm and that, if he has any interest in stopping (if not for his own sake for yours) then suggest holding ice (I was told this is good because it's uncomfortable but it doesn't actually damage the body) or share the coping skills you've used. You got this! I know it's hard to talk to someone about this kind of stuff who doesn't want to talk about it, I used to be like that, but I also know it's really worth it so that he won't progress into hurting himself more severely.