Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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caites13
caites13

I know it sounds so cliche but i recently broke up with the guy i was seeing, and my first thought was "at least now i can cut without being worried he'll notice."  which is surprising because i thought i was doing well with not cutting and not having urges.. triggers are everywhere i suppose.

sharaninmd
sharaninmd
Sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend broke up. You may feel this way because you have more time than when you were dating. Have you contacted a professional? If not, you may need some therapy to understand why you want to hurt yourself.
getbacktoserenity
getbacktoserenity
This is how I felt in the past as well. I loved the ease of not having to maintain a certain image of normalcy when all I was tempted to do was either tear at my cuticles or create wounds on my skin. It doesn't match up well with the dating experience.
But there are men out there who understand and who would accept such behavior. Not everyone is repulsed by it. They might not like that you are hurting yourself, but it won't put them off to the point of being uncomfortable. This is a realization that allowed me to have some peace in relationships
simpleman4321
simpleman4321
getback to serenity why did you unfriend me.
you are such a wise person and write so well.
i miss reading your messages.
please friend me back. i was getting so much from your writing.