Hi everyone! Basically I haven't really told my story to anyone and I could use some advice or maybe just someone to read and relate to!

Here is my story: I was diagnosed about a year and a half ago with scoliosis at the Shriner's Hospital in Erie, PA. I am currently 19 years old. They told me that obviously it was too late for bracing and that when I was younger I had a slight curve that they thought as I grew, would straighten without a brace because it was mild. It didnt. Anyways when they diagnosed my scoiliosis, I can't remenber the exact degree (i wanna say 36, i know i should probably know this! )-either way they did not mention anything about surgery. Afterwards I had complained to the doctor about having back pains inbetween my upper back and one particular shoulder blade and didnt know whether it was from playing tennis or not. ( By the way the scoliosis in my back is lower affecting my hips- they are uneven) As for my shoulder pain they recommended back exercises. When I was diagnosed, I was in total shock that I even had scoliosis. Therefore,I was basically speechless when it came to asking questions. That leads me to where I am now, still with constant back pain in my shoulder(i do the exercies they recommended too)..the pain usually hurts more when I am at work standing for 8 hrs, sitting during school, and even when I am sleeping. I can never lie flat on my back comfortably, I sometimes wake up because my back hurts so bad. Which reminds me- I went back a second time to shriners, about 4 months ago, to ask what I could do about the pain and unfortunately didnt even get to talk with the doctor! I got his assistant instead, who told me that everyones backs hurt while standing for 8 hours and redirected me to the physical therapist who went over the same exercises he gave me the first time i went there. While I was there, I felt extremely out of place seeing how all of the patients there were under the age of 10. I sometimes feel that they didnt take me seriously or may have given up on me right from the start because of my age. Recently, I have done some research and realized that I may have khyphosis? My Mother and Grandfather both have it severely. I had also asked this while at Shriners to the assistant but didnt know of the medical term it was called. I instead asked her if i was going to get "hunchback" like my mother's, but the assistant basically blamed kyphosis on bad posture and told me to just do the exercises and stay healthy? Anyways through my research, i notice i have alot of symptoms and signs of kphosis. I took ballet up until 6th grade, so I have always had decent posture but i notice now, one of my shoulder blades (the one that constantly hurts) sticks out or curves more even when i try to stand up straight and flatten my back. I am at lost what to do, because I tell my parents about it all the time and they basically ignore my complaints..they think I am over-exaggerating or blame it on the shoes I wear (half the time while I am at work I wear sneakers or birkenstocks). I feel so alone at times, even though my mother has a history of severe kyphosis and scoliosis in her family, she never wants to talk about it. She also said she never had back pain in her life so she doesnt understand why I complain so much. Any advice? Should I try going to a different doctor? Is it too late for me to get surgery? Are their any ways to keep the kyphosis from getting worse besides good posture?

Thanks a bunch to those of you who read this! Hope the best to all!