There are people in this world who only feel good about themselves when they put someone else down. It sounds like this man is one of those people. He wants to be in a relationship with you because he thinks you are an easy target, willing to take his crap... The best thing you can do for yourself is to kick him to the curb asap! You know that having RA doesn't make you less of a person or a figure to be made fun of... Do you realize that if we and all these good people lived in your town that man would probably get tarred and feathered, lol. We'd make one hell of a but-kicking-club wouldn't we? LOL

You take care of yourself because you are worth it! Hugs jilly

Sorry, Lovebaby, this one is unanimous! That kind of abuse only gets worse with time. If he is dismissive and critical now, he will continue with more of the same. Run like the wind. And find someone who cherishes you. Just like you are. Warts and all.

Ah... I'm sorry to be blunt but if I were you I would tell him to crawl back into the hole he crawled out of. You have me seething here! I bet you guys can see the smoke coming out of my ears. This may be a good experience though because I think it's true that a woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life, to be thankful for a good one and there are plenty of good ones out there. You can do without this one. *hugs*

Hi, lovebaby8!

I just read your post, and it made me very angry. Your boyfriend is a real jerk. I am being completely honest with you. You do not need this man! He has absolutely compassion, and what's even worse, he enjoys making you feel bad about yourself. It's obvious that he doesn't respect you. You need to get him out of your life as quickly as possible! Please, this is only the beginning with this idiot. I've had a lot of experience with people like this, so that's why I'm warning you. You have enough to worry about without having to deal with this insensitive creep. Show him the door, and tell him not to come back. Please let us know how you're doing. I'm looking forward to hearing that you got rid of him.

Keeping you in my heart, thoughts & prayers,

God Bless.

Somuch

AH there is no feelings left for him we broke up back in May. haven't been back together at all. I was just wondering if anyone went through that with anyone. I did kick him out of my apartment yesterday when he came over and pulled all that stuff on me and then tried to tell me he was joking. Thanks for your support:)

The right move, you need to let it go completely and busy yourself with life and care of yourself. Along that path someone will come along that will fill that place and be good for you and you for him.

Take care,
Renee

My 1st husband was a very unsupportive, jerk. I had several knee surgeries and he would just leave instead of being there when I needed him. He too,would make jokes and call me name. Long story short...that is emotional abuse. I left him and found someone who treated me the best I've ever been treated. He wouldn't let me carry laundry down our 2 flights of stairs, because he knew it hurt. He would NOT let me carry groceries and was always kind and loving. He never made fun of me or in anyway treated as a "cripple"...even though at times I thought of myself that way. I have to agree with everyone else...you don't need that in your life. And yes, I went through that with my 1st husband.

NO. Kick this person to the curb. when you do have problems and need someone, he would NOT be there to give you the support you may need someday!!!NO ONE deserves to be talked to in that tone!sometimes my husband can be understanding and sometimes not, but NEVER has he ever been like that! this is not an easy disease to understand and sometimes i can be confused, but give me a break. you are too good for him. hugs,deby

yup, been there, done that. and, yeah, i walked. took the 2 kids still at home and went our merry way. and it took a long time to get my head back on halfway straight! now i have a grumpy old fart (translates to: sexy older cowboy!) who adores me, tries to help as much as he can, and is my very best friend and lover rolled into one. and it only took me 40+ years to find him! so, there are good guys out there, you just gotta look, sometimes really really hard!

lots of gentle hugs,
brat

Clearly he hasn't bothered to undestand your disease or he wouldn't be relating it to his age. We all know AGE has nothing to do with RA. If he's still comparing RA to old age arthritis then he hasn't been listening. If he thinks he knows what you're feeling because of his little bit of Osteoarthritis in one or two joints then he's not likley ever going to understand. I agree... to the curb he goes!

Yes and he still doesn't get it.
Walking is hard, lifting is hard...it's like you feel like a new-born baby...weak and in pain.
fatigue to that most people do not understand that is a definite part of this disease.
I cannot walk fast either and my family and friends are great.
I don't want sympathy just empathy.
We have to learn new ways to cope.
Learn to adjust to a new way of doing things.
We can still do them but maybe it takes a little longer.
I found my now ex-fianc was not very supportive after the heart attack I had a year ago this past May.
He seemed to be only concerned how it and the RA affected him.
Selfish men.
Feeling so much better and happier since having no contact with him.
Like your ex-b/f he just kept bringing me down.
I have lots of wonderfully supportive family and friends I do not need/want this negative person in my life...my life is hard enough trying to cope with this RA.
Hugs to you and don't don't let him get to you.
He was lucky to have had you be part of his life and it's his loss and your gain he isn't.
Keep your head and know there is someone else out there for you and me who will be more sensitive to our RA.
:)