Rheumatoid Arthritis Support Group
Rheumatoid arthritis is a chronic, inflammatory, multisystem, autoimmune disorder. It is a disabling and painful condition which can lead to substantial loss of mobility due to pain and joint destruction. The disease is also systemic in that it often also affects many extra-articular tissues throughout the body including the skin, blood vessels, heart, lungs, and...
I thought I had a great guy that was able to handle the RA pretty good but I was proven wrong today. He broke up with me because I am not ready to have kids at this point and I am not ready to move in with him at the moment. I don't want to go off my meds to have a baby we have only been together for three months so I am not ready to move in with him. He told me that he can't handle me any more with the RA he can't stand all the meds that I have to take he thinks I am addict. The funny thing is he can't even have kids because he is sterile. But he wants me to get off all my meds and go to clinic to get preganant. I am only 25 not ready for that yet and even if I wanted to have kids I am not physically strong enough to take care of myself most days let alone a child. I guess its just time to move on and know that there are better people out there I guess. The funny thing is I have been dating him 3 months and he has never even taken me to his house so he wants me to have kid with him but I can't go to his house? I live with my mom who sleeps during the day because she works graveyard so we don't spend time alone here but yet he wants a kid. Strange people out there I guess.
I agree with Angela, this guy sounds like a real loser, not to be mean. I hope next time you can really take your time and get to know someone. Leave the serious conversations like having kids until much later. I don't know what this guy's deal was, but not inviting you to his house, wanting a 25 year old to have kids after only three months, etc. seems very very strange.
Hope you get over him fast!
hugs,
Sarah
Sorry to hear that the guy that was great to you for some of the time turned out to be not as great as you had hoped! It's sad when someone decides they cannot be with us for whatever reason. This disease is hard for us, and also hard on those who love us. We all need someone pretty wise, patient & caring to love us thru the mad times that this disease brings. And as for babies, maybe he was eager for this for a reason you don't quite understand but it does sound really early to be seriously discussing this.
I hope you are feeling okay and that others around you can care for you now.
I look back at my life & am very pleased that I didn't end up with the guys that I fell in love with in my early 20's. I trust that someone better will come into your life (usually when you're not even on the lookout!)
Take care, Anna
Lynne
I am so sorry you had to experience this. Like the others I echo he is a loser and a jerk, and you deserve far better than that.
You are 25, learning to live with a chronic disease and adjust your life. This is all so hard at such a young age. Lots of time to meet Mr. Right, so don't give up.
You are better off without this guy! marcia
There's a reason he hasn't taken you to his house - and I bet it would be a deal breaker on your end.
There are wonderful guys out there. Right about the time you give uplooking, one will appear and love you for exactly who you are.
You're young~don't be pressured into anything that you'll have a lifetime to regret. Live your life the way YOU want to! Hang in there~we're all rooting for you:)