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You Can do What You Want To A Stripper

Shadowofme22
Shadowofme22

I used to be a dancer, to support my son. I met some guys that i went to school with there. They invited me back to their place for drinks and beer pong. I got drunk. Played strip pong. I figured theyd already seen me almost naked right? I was into one of them. Guy A well call him. Night winds down, im wasted, and guy A and i go to his room. We kiss and get heavy. Then his friend came in. Laid there. I told him several times to leave. He tried to join. I said no. Alot. They kept saying "come on, its fine" "dont worry" and they were both touching me and kissing on me and i got co fused. I kept saying no, but i was so drunk.. i started to fall asleep, coming in and out of consciousness, but they were both using me. In the most awful ways. When they were done i cried. And cried and cried. They were in the hallway gloating to guy number 3. I fell asleep, and left as soon as the sun came up. I felt broken, used, worthless. Because since i showed my body for money, since i went to their house, i got drunk and stripped to my under wear and bra, how could i possibility claim rape? Who would believe me? Since then, i have never been the same. I cant trust any male that comes near me. I think every guy is a predator . I worry about everyone i know hurting my now three children. How can i get over myself?

bsnuggles41
bsnuggles41
Well first things first, it doesn't matter if you got drunk and was standing on the stand table screaming fuck me, as soon as you were drunk you are legally unable to give consent. Might not be the best choice to make but its the law. That being said, YOU SAID NO and that leaves no grey area, even if you were naked standing on the stand table sober screaming fuck me, and then change your mind and say NO NO NO, its still rape, and its STILL NOT YOUR FAULT!!! Any way you go about, not your fault!!!! As for getting over yourself, its more of how to deal with your feeling, cope with them, put the pieces back together and move forward. Have you thought of therapy? If not there are some good self-help books out there. Personally, I would start with five affirmation cards, get five note cards and write something on each one of them. IT WAS NOT MY FAULT! I DESERVE TO BE LOVED! I AM A GREAT MOM! I AM WORTHY! MY KIDS LOVE ME! Something along those lines would be a good place to start, stand in front of the mirror a couple times a day with your cards and look yourself in the eyes and repeat what is on your cards. Its a sort of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to start helping change the way you are thinking of yourself. Because you are all those things! Gentle Hugs!