Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
Rape is a traumatic event that will affect every aspect of your life it touches you to the very depths of your soul and changes you forever. However, the story doesnt have to end there. You are a different person as a result of your experience. However, by making a determined effort to work through the pain and live life on your terms, you can still have a wonderful, fulfilling life. While it may seem clich to say, "whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger", the saying is very true. You are a survivor. You are in charge. You are stronger than ever before.
I understand where you are coming from, but I don't think that you have gone through the trauma many of us have. I don't mean to judge you but when I read your sayings sometimes I get upset with you. I don't think that you are thinking before you post First of all you don't become a survivor by just saying I am strong I am a survivor, It takes a long time for you to get past what happened. Even though I have tried to get over my child abuse, and two rapes and beatings daily from my ex husband. It comes back to haunt me. It has been twenty five year and my ex is now stalking me again. You do not know what your talking about when you say make a determined effort to work through the pain. You are very young, I am in my 50's and I have used all of my life to try and get over this. It does not go away in a day, a month,a year, ten years. It haunts you to your core daily. I had to leave my regular life and run and go into hiding under ground for five years. Do you know how hard that is no, you don't because you have never had to go through it.. After leaving and changing who I was. I tried to find a new person with in for my young sons sake. I can tell you not a day goes by that I do not cry because my son hates me for ruining his life.He was to young to understand and he is older than you.now, but he still cannot forgive me..I know you mean well but please don't talk about things that you truly have not faced.I believe you had problems when you were in foster care but I don't think you understand the impact of numerous rapes. I am not saying that my pain is worse than yours ,because I cannot walk a mile in your shoes. We may think we are in charge but in all likely hood we are not. There are only so many things we can control. We have no control of someone raping you. We have no control over being beaten, We have no control on how the law deals with rapists or child molesters.So I am going to ask you to please becareful what you write.You or I or no one wants to hurt someone, without realizing who you are.I have tried to live my life and be in control but after being raped numerous times, you cannot live life on your terms. All I can do is give it all to my Lord and ask him to help me deal with the past so that I can heal and that one day I will be a survivor My control is in my Lord's hand and maybe one day he will heal my fear.Which is very hard to do. Fear is something that sits inside you waiting to reappear when you least expect it. It controls you and all I can do is give it too the Lord. It takes a long time to get any strength back in your life after a traumatic event. Whether it be rape, molestation, abuse from loved ones, being scarred , is being scarred. I hope you understand where I am coming from. This is not meant to hurt you just remind you to think before you post , as wellas I should. Thank You isabee