Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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raspberryfields 10/17/2018

hello! Happy to be connected with people who understand. I am working through my rape experiences in counseling but would appreciate some support. As I start to talk about it all these scary details keep coming to mind. I feel like I can’t escape it. I want to be able to talk about it with my husband but have a hard time finding the words. They happened when I was 15 and 16, more than 10 years ago. I have had anxiety ever since and only now am I realizing how much the rapes have effected me.

Has it taken anyone else this long? Any tips on how to talk to my husband?

bp0622 10/19/2018

Hello! Thank you for sharing. I am also having issues sharing my experience with my husband. You are not alone. ❤️

fadedhope 10/27/2018

It’s been over a decade for me and I still can’t even talk about it out loud at all - even to a counsellor so it sounds like you’re doing great to me

fadedhope 10/27/2018

As in- it sounds like you’re already being very brave!

MissMiaJoy 10/30/2018

Hey. I understand, as I'm sure most, if not everyone else as well, how difficult it is to talk about our rape. One thing you can try is sharing a journal with your husband or writing him a letter. In writing, tell him that you want to open up to him about this part of your life, but it's hard to express in words, hence this journal/letter. Share your story and what you're feeling. Which ever approach you use, journal or letter, he can write back to you, and you guys can use what you write to open the floor up for discussion whenever you two are ready.

Another idea that might work is, if you're still in counseling, or are able to book a session, you could have your therapist help you in talking to your husband during a session as well.

When I told my parents, 2 years had passed, and I had written it in a letter and left it on my mom's side of the room after going out of town. For me, writing has always been my go-to when I have something that needs to be said, but is too difficult.

I hope this helps :)

holly12 11/01/2018

Here for you. You are so brave x

MissMiaJoy 11/04/2018

Hey! How are you? I was 17 during all my attacks. There was one time when I was sexually assaulted when I was 18, but I wasn't raped and it was interrupted after a few seconds (thank God). Although all this happened 12 years ago, it's only been in recent years that I've recognized some of how it negatively affected me. I've done a lot of healing, but there's still more to work on....even after 12 years...

As far as opening up to your husband, if you can't find the words to start the conversation, you can always use some form of writing, like a letter or something. Or maybe you could see if he could come to a session with you and you could have your therapist help you to have the conversation

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