I have no idea how to deal with flashbacks but I get them all the time too. Talking about it does always make them come to me too. It sucks. I'm sorry you're having them. :(

i'm so sorry that that happened to you......for me grounding alwasy helps me....grounding is just anotehr word for using your 5 senses to bring you back to the present....scented lotion works well....sometimes i journal, i suck on mints or hard caramels, i also run my jeans so i can feel the fabric.....and i always keep myself safe....hoep this helped....if you ever wanna talk, i'm here

sometimes talking does help, but only if I'm in the right state of mind. I only talk about what happened when I'm feeling calm, settled in my own skin, so *I'm* the one telling the story, not the anxiety, not the fear, not them. *I'm* in control of who I tell, *I'm* in control of what I share, and *I'm* in control of how I tell the story. For me, this has helped keep the flashbacks down to where it's not re-traumatizing to talk about what happened, and makes the conversation healing rather than haunting. It can actually make talking about it empowering.

Also, when the flashbacks do happen, I've found that the more I tell myself I'm okay, the more okay I actually am. It's not easy, but if you can just keep yourself in the present moment, ground yourself in whatever way works for you, and keep telling yourself you are SAFE (even though it doesn't feel like it at the moment), it might help you get through them a little easier.

Thank you guys for your feed back ill def take these into account. talking about it is so new to me, and sometimes i feel like people are forcing it out of me which im not comforatble with but they dont seem to understand. Its puts me in a very vulnerable position sometimes.