Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
I sometimes wonder if my ex knew how our relationship would end. I wonder if he ever liked me at all, or if he chose me because he could tell I was an easy target. I wonder if he saw that I was emotionally weak. I wonder if he knew that I wouldn't fight back hard enough. He emotionally abused me for months before the rape and physical abuse and I just accepted it. Was it a test to see if he could have whatever he wanted? Was it to see if I would press charges and even if I did press charges did he know I wouldn't fight hard enough to win? Did I love a rapist who only ever saw a target?
deleted_user
I wonder the same thing I don't have any answers for you or me. I was in a similar situation. Months of emotional abuse by the guy i was dating before he beat and raped me. Looking back I wonder if all that was to see how far he could go. I wonder if I looked weak to him the whole time. Maybe that's why he picked me in the first place. I don't know but you're not alone in feeling that way.
bseas
hi ...how are you...we can wonder a lot of things...the fact is..is that yes you were raped..however..he wasnt a rapist when you where with him....even if you did love him...he was your boyfriend...and you cant fault yourself because of his issues and what he did...regardless of how you feeling or how you felt..you are not a Target!! he liked something about you...if he would have targed you...you wouldnt had a relationship...trust me..you know when youre being targed...and you have to tsop beating your self up...dont do that..i dont care what goes on in your life..even if you know you were at fault!! you take responsibility for your action YES but to continue beating yourself up NO...keep your head up ok...be more positive...love you and if you ever want to talk..send me a message...and feel free to read my profile if you like..
valgal18
i'm so sorry that happened to you....my therapist told me that abusers can tell who victims are and who has been abused before....i don't know if that answers your question....and we may never ever know the answer to any of your questions, as much as we may want....i wish i could help you and answer those questions, but unfortuantly i can't.....if you ever wanna talk, i'm here
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