im glad you told someone!!!!! right now i think you need support.....and you need ot feel safe......stay with your family or whoever you feel safe with.......it's gonna be scary and it's gonna be hard to acceopt things, but WE are here for you too.......stay with whoever you feel safe and you can take whatever precautions you need ot to feel safe,....i'd also recommend making an appoitnemtn with a therpaist/counselor or go to your local rape crisis center....best of luck!!!! if you need me contact me!!!!

I was raped myself back in 2000 when some piece of garbage slipped a drug into my drink, so I know where you're coming from. I understand that you're terrified and that's totally normal! You did the right thing in telling someone, as so many of us are too afraid or too ashamed to do so. Good for you! It will probably take you a long time to feel safe again, so until you do.. surround yourself with loved ones or people that you feel safe around! Don't leave yourself alone where you feel vulnerable to another attack. I hope that you get the justice that you deserve & I hope that you will get some help for yourself at a rape crisis center or with a therapist. They can really help you learn to live a normal life again and help you get past the fear. I'll be thinking of you and you can message me or IM me anytime!
Nikki

Bless you ...wish I could say things to ease this situation xxx Thinking of you...if you re in the UK...Message me roughly your area and I will find out your local rape counselling services for you to call xxx

thank you all so much

i am so sorry that you have to deal with but it was really good that you have someone you trust enough to talk to about it. if you ever need to talk,i am here!

I am so sorry that this happened to you. I agree with the other group members who said to stay with supportive people as long as you need to.
You have shown a lot of strength by telling your family and talking to the police.I think sometimes survivors of violent crimes don't realize that since they are still alive they must have done a lot of things right during the attack.
If there is any chance that you may want to go forward with charges against your attacker I suggest call the national sexual assault crisis line at 1.800.656.HOPE, unless your town has its own rape crisis center in which case I suggest call them.You may want to see whether they have an advocate who can go to an emergency dept. with you right away.During the exam in the ER the advocate should insist that the ER doctor use the rape kit.If any of your clothes have semen,saliva or blood on them seal them in a bag and take them to the ER unless your local police already collected them.That's where the DNA comes from that proves who did this to you and nails the SOB after the results come back from a crime lab. During the rape exam if you have any bruises, scratches, or any other injuries that occurred during the attack that are still visible, the ER staff should take pictures of them. If they don't, get one of your friends to take pictures of your injuries with a camera that documents the date and time the photos were taken.Make sure that the ER staff seal the evidence with the attacker's body fluid in a bag with your name on it in your presence.Remember you can go ahead and get everything in place without deciding for sure now whether or not you want to face the guy in court if they catch him.But if you go through the rape exam and make sure evidence gets saved now, you will ensure that you have that option later when the shock wears off and you get angry about what was done to you.
The rape crisis advocate will likely be able to tell you a lot more than I have.
My only other humble suggestions would be that you might want to write down exactly what you remember about everything that happened right before, during, and right after the attack before the details get fuzzy.
If your attacker ran off with your purse you may want to change your locks and hot card your bank cards.
If you have medical bills directly related to the crime you might check to see whether your state has a crime victim's compensation fund.
But really people are in such shock for especially about the first 72 hours after a crisis like this that again, I think you are doing exactly the right thing by staying with others.
A couple of books that might get you through the first few days are "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker and "I Am The Central Park Jogger" by Trisha Meili.I'm sure a lot of people in the group can suggest others that would be at least as helpful.
In 1990 in Kansas City, I was beaten up and robbed in a deserted parking lot.I was not sexually assaulted in that attack, however I suffered classic PTSD symptoms that interfered with my life for a long time.In the months after the attack along with being afraid and having flashbacks, I was SOOOOO ANGRY that out of all the potential victims my attacker could have chosen that night he apparently sized me up as the easiest mark! The attack changed me forever, but when I first started to feel in control of my life again was when I took a class called Model Mugging, which is still taught in bigger cities.Later I invested in a home security system and my choice was to purchase a handgun and become proficient with it,although I have read about people opposed to firearms who have instead chosen to become proficient with other kinds of personal protection such as a taser or pepper spray.
Hopefully I've said something that will be helpful.You've got a long road ahead of you.Don't go it alone.You may never be the same but that doesn't mean you can't someday emerge stronger.That doesn't mean there can't be justice for you.We are here for you.

You are very brave - it's great that you told your family and the police. I suggest you seek some counselling (I am and I find it helps). Take care and God bless.

Hi, Shannan! Sorry to hear that this happened to you.

Have you been checked out for any physical injuries and such? And is there a counseling center in your area?

I.m so very sorry. I am not able to say more right now. I am just so very sorry.