I had a different experience but I have blamed family for certain incidents and best thing I can.day is it really does take time..... I literally poured all my anger sadness and.emotions, into one great felt rant face to face we them since the sure was flares gradually and very slowly rebuilt from there....its a long road and not easy...my best advice would be to try counseling.....I learned that the reason I was do angry and busy blaming her was deep down I didn't want to about it was really my fault...counseling just really helped me clear my.thoughts

wish I had some good advice for you. I've been angry at my parents for years and haven't quite figured out how to repair the relationship. When I tried to talk to my dad about how the sexual assualt that happened to me when I was a kid affected my life he explained to me that he was always there for me so therefor I had an easy life and have no reason to be sad/angry about anything. I was sexually assualted, placed in a youth facility, etc. My parents never did anything wrong but I'm constantly angry with them for being so unaware of what was happening in my life. They defend themselves by saying what happened was not their fault and that they had no way of knowing what was going on. I've been trying to get them to admit I had a tough time and that it did affect me. I think I can forgive them when they stop pretending like nothing happened and telling people that I always had it easy. Rebuilding the relationship is doable so long as they hold up their end and I'll be willing to do whatever they need me to do.

Ive had somthing very simuliarto ur situation. When i was 8 years old my mother meet a man who we evtually moved in with. At that time my mother was always gone working every week and wouldnt come home till late at night.
One day he got to close to me and would always acsadentaly brush my leg. Then one day he he attacted me he through me against walls an he raped me. he told me if i told anyone one hed kill my mom and me. I keeped quiet. since my mom was always gone and he was left to pick mne up from school and i was stuck with him for the the whole day. i was raped again a beatten. this went on for 2 months.
eventually i told my best friend at school. she told her mom and her mom told my mother. She asked me if it was true i finally thought nows my chance i said yes. we left him after that.
But my mom eventually was in denial an called me lierand didnt belive me she said i was making it all up. For 6 years she continued to see him behind my back. i evutally founf out. It tore me apart i started getting into drugs and was emotionally desturbed. I got angry with heran would blam her for my problems.
Thing is she was the cuase of my issues.
I should hate her but i dont. theres things that happened after that that i should really hate her for...But i dont. My i have tryed to mend our relationship but she is now a junk an wont change. And i just resontlly left home a month agoand am staying with a relitive. She got married to a man i dont even know. i dont trust the men she picks so i left also becuase of her drug use.
I think you can mend your hurt heart. But it will take time and first you need to work through this situation with a therapist. becuase i didnt after that and it really messed me up even more. I think once u can tolerat the painful memorys about that time you were raped then you can start with seeing your mom.
Dont move back in with her not with a sick man there. Your mom should of protected you but she didnt know. But like you said if she new she would have protected her duaghter. Im sorry that this happened to u as well. Your mom sounds like she loves u alot.
My mom didnt love me enough to not only beleive me an get me help but she still saw him even though she new that he raped me.
Take your time theres no rush to fix your relationship. Focuse on mending yourself then work on that next. i see hope for you. u will forgive her in due time. just hold in there and have faith in yourself ok .
sorry for the long essay my bad ^_^ if u ever want totalk im her for u k ^_^