Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
Okay so I am recently struggling with the memory of my husband R*ping me.
I guess I want some friendly advice.
I miss him being here but every time I start remembering his touch it turns into the night he forced himself on me. And then I start crying. This is happening off and on through out the day. I can't make it stop. How do I make it stop?
I remember him making me have sex with him. I feel him holding me from behind begging me to sleep with him. All I wanted to do was sleep off my drunkness. I was in the shower first after we got back from the bar. He was sober I was totally wasted. Maybe that is why he did.
He also recently said, ' I don't see how it entirely just my fault about what happened when you were 21.' That is what he said in response to me asking him if he would be mad if I told someone he raped me.........
How pathetic am I that I still love him? Every guy who has taken advantage of me has told me it is my fault that I caused this on myself. It must be true.....
I am scared. I'm afraid that my flashbacks are going to rule my life. I can't handle my own memories.
I guess I want some friendly advice.
I miss him being here but every time I start remembering his touch it turns into the night he forced himself on me. And then I start crying. This is happening off and on through out the day. I can't make it stop. How do I make it stop?
I remember him making me have sex with him. I feel him holding me from behind begging me to sleep with him. All I wanted to do was sleep off my drunkness. I was in the shower first after we got back from the bar. He was sober I was totally wasted. Maybe that is why he did.
He also recently said, ' I don't see how it entirely just my fault about what happened when you were 21.' That is what he said in response to me asking him if he would be mad if I told someone he raped me.........
How pathetic am I that I still love him? Every guy who has taken advantage of me has told me it is my fault that I caused this on myself. It must be true.....
I am scared. I'm afraid that my flashbacks are going to rule my life. I can't handle my own memories.
It is not your fault. You can get through it.
Please continuing to talk about it, and understand that the emotions you are going through are normal. What he did was rape. You can't change it and neither can he.
Please seek help. For me it was only when I began processing and dealing with all of the emotions including guilt that I began to heal and get my life back.
I am here if you ever need to talk
I know ive said this before but yes he did Rape you, and he knew exactly what he was doing. My wife recently started this new medication to help deal with flashback/flooding and it has helped her alot! They give it to vets back from war as well. It works well when you combine it with therapy as well. Im so sorry your still feeling horrible about this. THIS IS NOT your fault!! Men sometimes just dont understand the effect they can have when they do this. To them its just sex and they want to belive that these women "wanted it". I hope that you can heal from this and move on to find someone who would never hurt you life this. You deserve to be treated better Pepper. If you want I can message you the name of this medication as i cant remember the name right now.
I myself was raped by someone close to me (my boyfriend). It is hard when it is someone you love and should trust. Your world gets warped and it is hard to discern what is right and what is wrong. I'll tell you right now, HE is wrong. If you did not want to have sex, he raped you. Regardless of whether or not he was your husband, when you want to have sex is your decision. As your husband he should've respected your decision. Instead he violated you and took advantage of the role he played in your life. You are not at fault, no matter your age or whether or not you were drunk.