My husband and have over this exact senerio a hand full of times through my pregnancy. I am 33w tomorrow and also had a VERY difficult time with infertility. I had 2 ectopic pregnancies, 2 surgery's, 1 failed and 1 cancelled IUI in between my pregnancies, and thankfully a successful IVF In Jan. And I will say, even though I am carrying a singleton, being pregnant is harder than I ever could have imagined. And up until 28 weeks when I found out I had a complete placenta previa and had two bleeds, it had been a very good pregnancy for the most part. Minus the disabling pain from sciatica! BUT I will say he has been less than empathetic when it comes to understanding how hard this is. And he is also very annoyed when I "complain" which I think may be simply just telling him how I am feeling when he asks. I have to come to understand that being grateful for this experience and not "loving" the difficulties of carrying a child are very separate. I used to get so upset hearing my friends complain when I was struggling to get pregnant, now having experienced it I have a whole new perspective! I really want to be one of those I Love to be pregnant kinda girls, but I just don't love it. I am so uncomfortable aboout 90% of the time, it's hard to love. But that doesn't mean I would trade it for anything. So I get where you are coming from, and you can "complain" to me anytime!!! Here's to hoping we have our babies soon! But not too soon!

I'm so sorry your hubby isn't being more supportive. I totally know how you feel. Like rara I struggled with secondary infertility for over 2 years and am finally pregnant from IVF. I am 18 weeks today, but I look like I am 7 months. I don't know why my belly is so huge already, but the discomfort is happening already.
I hope your DH comes around, and I hope that you have an easy birth and 2 wonderfully healthy babies. My thoughts are with you!

Hi Harpee8!

I totally hear and feel where you are coming from. Congratulations on the twins! That is so exciting. I lost twins last year and now I am 37 weeks along with a singleton :) Although my pregnancy hasn't been as difficult as you have been describing, these last couple of weeks my DIScomfort level has definitely gone . I am, just like rara2778, extremely greatful for the experience of being pregnant and I feel very blessed to have a healthy little one growing, but I don't love being pregnant. And I don't understand women that do. Everytime I mention this to my husband or try to express my discomfort he just doesn't get it. And he can't relate. Anyway I just wanted to share a liitle bit so you knew that you are not alone in your frustration!

Sarah

I would like your husband to try and carry twins for 40 weeks. It's your health and body and you should ask your dr if you can deliver sooner rather than later. Good luck!

Thanks everyone. It def makes me feel better that it isn't just my husband who doesn't understand. I am so happy to be having these babies but that doesn't mean I have to love every single part of this pregnancy. This is also def one of the times I wish the guys carried the baby so they would fully understand.

I'm so sorry your hubby isn't being supportive. I am 20weeks now, and so far my hubby has been pretty good. He complained about me once when we were out with out friends - apparently I need to sleep too much for his liking. It was early on in the pregnancy, 10 weeks or so, and I nailed him for it (poor guy, it was probably the hormones talking). Since then, he has been nothing but sweet. I think that they just can't relate at all. I also try to remember that even the most sensitive hubby can have a bad day and say things in a way that they don't mean. Hopefully that's what happened with your hubby. If not, put him in his place ;)

I am 12 weeks with twins as well, and so far this has been horrific. We have battled infertility for 5 years, and this is not at all what I expected. So many of my friends have been so happy and just loved it, and I am exactly in your position. (I am not nearly as far along as you, but now I'm getting scared!) I have been so SICK the entire time. Getting though a day at work is a nightmare, and getting anything done at home is nearly impossible. Everyone keeps telling me it will get better in the second trimester, but I am not getting my hopes up. My husband has been very supportive, and I try not to complain too much, but when he asks me how I'm feeling, I certainly tell him. He did make one comment to me last week (and that will be the last time for that). He asked me if I'd run real quick to the store down the street for something, and I just looked at him like "are you kidding me" and he said " you've been laying around here all day doing nothing" I pretty much blew up on him, then started crying. He won't make that mistake again. My doctor also said they would not go in until 38 weeks if everything was going well. You are so close, but I completely understand how 3 weeks is an ABSOLUTE ETERNITY away when you are so sick. Good luck, and feel free to complain away!

Okay, so yesterday I finally decided to say something. When he initially told me I was complaining too much I didn't say anything back because I was hurt he even thought it. So yesterday, I let him have it. I just blasted him saying I have a right after going through 3 years of infertility and miscarriages, endless needles and treatments to have these kids... I also added that we are in the middle of a heat wave, my doctor keeps moving my end date... that I think he finally got where I was coming from. After my blow up at him he suddenly was very delicate and back to being the supportive guy he had been for the past 3 years. It was also good because his mother completely backed me up because she was also pregnant (ironically with him) in the month of August- he was born at the end of this month. So it was nice to have her also tell him to knock it off... Just can't wait till these little ones are here...

Sometimes I wish we can take men's balls and wrap them over their heads and then ask them if they have any discomfort that they want to complain about!!!???

Sorry... men can be very unsupportive at times. Youre a better woman than me chic, i wouldve told him to STFU but that's me.

I would complain all the time now- JUST to despite him, then he will know what REAL complaining is!

I too am carrying twins. I am only 15 weeks but with constant morning sickness everyday and an ever grwoing uterus I am already in a lot fo pain. When I tell my husband he makes comments like "it is not difference with twins that with one baby." Oh really? How the heck would he know. Men have no idea and they can be very insensitive. I would like my husband to feel this for just 24 hours so he could understand. My uterus is measuring at 29 weeks but I am only 15 weeks....it is crazy. Well good luck with your babies and if you have any advice for someone expecting twins... please let me know.