carms29

Child birth is child birth no matter what anyone says! You are making a choice and it's your choice to make. It's not a bad decision as long as you are aware of the pros and cons and both you and your Dr. are comfortable with it!

I too am having a repeat c-section with my second child. Partly because of being high risk for HELLP and partly because I like the idea of being able to plan as I too have a 5yr old who will need to be cared for while I am GIVING BIRTH to our daughter!! My first c-section was an emergency, but it was a wonderful experience for my husband and I.

Don't worry about the judgmental people...they don't have to like it or agree with it as long as they support you in the end:-)

Good Luck to you!!

With my daughter I had a totally natural birth---I hated it. It was awful!!!! With my son I begged for a c section. I loved having a c section. I do say all the time that I gave birth to my daughter and that we just "got" our son. Of course I am just being silly. When I have another baby I will not hesitate to have another c section!!!

Don't ever feel badly about your choices!!!!!

I would say you know what's best for you and your schedule and lifestyle. Some will say you should opt for the natural birth because it's what nature intended and blah blah blah but if you already had one, and don't mind it, I would say it's YOUR choice, and people should mind their own business. As long as the baby is healthy and you are ok with your choices, then everyone else needs to mind their own business. Hang in there and don't let the opinions of others influence your life choices. ((((Hugs)))) Good luck!

Ugh I hate that comment - If you have a c-section it isn't really giving birth... the person who says that has never had surgery. I have given birth naturally and although I have never had a c-section I have had abdominal surgery and I will take the natural birth.

Anyone who has a c-section whether planned or not, is absolutely going through the "birth" experience. The pain, the recovery, the extra things needed to be done. You do not need to listen to anyone who belittles you for any reason, let alone an arbitrary outcome that ignorant people put upon your birth experience.

You and your doctors know what is right for you and your baby, there are pros and cons obviously but the number one responsibility of you and your doctor is a happy healthy Momma and Baby.

Let the other people talk - ignorance is bliss. Let them be blissful, and you just ingore ;)

ya know what..........your baby, your body...screw everyone else..that really ticks me off to thing that people actually tink they have the right to jusge u for makking a decision that is best for you....i have 4 kids and am due the end of may (if i make it) and i have aleady planned it w my OB that he will induce me on a certain date so that i canhave planned childcare fro my other children.... the fact that we have discussed having her a week early caused all kinds of drama...well ya know what....people need to keep their comments to their selves. iactually went into labor on sunday and monday and was pretty pissed when they stopped it because i am ready, she is big enough, ive had steroid shots for her lungs, my other kids were taken care of, andit hurt like hell! i was getting all kinds of opinions that frankly were unneeded...people just need to understand that we ae these babies momthers and are not going to do anything to hurt them......ugh..stay strong and do what YOU want to do....

I'm with you. I had a c-section with my first and if I get lucky enough to have a second I wouldn't hesitate to have another. Don't listen to anyone else. My friends and I call them the SMUGS. Those mothers who think they are better than everyone else because they delivered naturally. Whatever. I remind myself that when my son starts kindergarten, graduates from high school, goes off to college etc no one is really going to care or ask how he came into the world. Only that he is a good and kind person. Let the SMUGS gloat and feel superior. They obviously have some inner need to be "better" than anyone else. I only need to know that my son arrived healthy and happy, whatever the method.

If it is a repeat section, I can totally understand your decision. Esp. if the first one was done because of some type of emergency. Many of us are too scared to even contemplate vaginal delivery after a c-s. The important thing I guess is for you to be informed. If you read up on VBAC's (vaginal birth after cesarean) and learn of their advantages over a repeat c-section, yet still do not feel comfortable attempting a VBAc, then it is your decision.

I think that you may believe some people are judging you, but perhaps they are just genuinely concerned?

I am quite sure that if you know all the facts, and can at least explain to them the reasons WHY you want another section, all the benefits, etc., that that will make them stop.

Some people seem to have an issue with name-calling and all that, which I quite frankly do not understand. Nobody is judging anybody for having a c-section if it was needed to get your baby out safely, or to save your life. Yes, it is called giving birth via a c-section.

Some people MAY have an issue with those who CHOOSE a c-section, ie. an ELECTIVE C-SECTION, which is NOT medically indicated, because of the risks to the baby and the mother. It is much safer for mother and baby to have a vaginal delivery.

You can read my post on "How to avoid a c-section"...if you are interested in learning more. But that post is more geared to first-time moms who have never had a c-section, and how to avoid one in the first place. Unfortunately, once a woman has a c-section, she often ends up with another one...unless she is really adamant about VBAC.

In the end, it is your body, your baby. I had to have an emergency c-section under general anaesthesia with my third. I faced a lot of pressure to HAVE a repeat c-section,including from my own DH. Over the course of the pregnancy,he got a bit more informed, and thanks to one good ob-gyn, who let him truly know all the risks of a c-s to both of us, and the advantages of a vbac, he was sold, and became my strongest supporter.

But that may not be your case; that is ok. I sure as heck hope it is not people here on DS that are judging you!

Big hugs to you and bubs...and either way,
Good luck!

carms29,
girl you need to do whatever is best for you. Personally, I have given an elective csection thought just because of the many things you have mentioned in your opening remarks...in addition, I am seriously considering a tubal ligation after this birth...so if they are already having to be in there...then why not? I have done 4 vaginal births and I can say that they are not all cracked up to be. hang in there! Good luck!

I'm so sick and tired of people being chastised for their decision to have a c-section. Nobody has the right to judge you for it....it is your body and your decision. There is no right or wrong way to have a baby, and it is still childbirth no matter how that baby comes into the world. I tried my hardest to have my daughter vaginally but it just didn't happen the way I planned....so to get on here every day and read posts about the evils of c-sections really upsets me. Nobody should be made to feel like less of a woman simply because of a decision to have surgery over vaginal birth. And as for "normal"....the rate of c-sections is at an all time high right now, so it's VERY much "normal" in our society. Try to ignore what people are telling you and do what you feel is best for you and your baby.