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Sun 12th,
I told simon i was keeping the baby no matter what nothing is going to change my mind if i have to be with out him i will. Later that day i went to the toilet and i had brown blood like i normally have at the end of my period. I started to panic and cry i called simon up stairs and showed him the sheet of toilet paper.Simon flung his arms around me and said i knew somthing like this was going to happen. I said i dont know what to do simon im so worried.Still sobbing i grabbed my mobile phone and called my friend samantha who had already had 2 pregnancys. I told her what had happened and she assured me that it happened with both of her babys and it was just old blood not to worry unless it was red. For the rest of the day after i had explained what sam had told me he was being really horrible trying to up set me and it worked.I was crying most of the day and everytime i did i would feel a pain in my belly. That night we went to bed and cuddled for what was going to be our last night togther because i was going home on monday.
monday 13th aug
I woke up and turned to simon i told him that i had a bad dream that i was in a shop and started bleeding and a stillborn baby came out of me. Simon thought i was being stupid. I got up and started to pack my things ready to go home. I started to feel deep cramps in my belly and rushed to the toilet. In my knikers was more brown blood i went into simon and told him about it and insisted on him looking too.Simon said that it was more red rather than brown. This started to panic me and i was getting more and more upset.Simon got ready for work and left at 130pm. I went to the toilet again and now red blood was coming out i was so worried. i called my mum not knowing what else to do and because she could not give me any answers i sort of lost my temper and spoke horrible to her before hanging up.I then recieved a call off my midwife she asked me a bunch of questions and infromed me that the only scan avalible for me to attened was not till wed the 15th. After speaking to her i could feel more blood coming out i called my mother again and she said that i have to go to hospital. I got simon home and he drove me to the hospital.
I had only time to stuff my knikers with toilet paper and had no sanitory towels. I asked the nurse for one after she had taken my temp and blood pressure. I went into the toliet and pulled down my knickers on the toilet paper there was some skin like tissue i prayed it was not my baby and everything was going to be alright. I was than taken to a ward where they aparently had a bed for me. Simon and I sat in this sort for tv room for hours untill and doctour came to see me. We were taken into a room with a bed i was to lie down and have her touch my stomoch she said that she was going to have to examine me internaly. Simon decided to wait outside. I took off my trousers and knickers and layed on the bed. Another woman arrived and pulled a lamp over to my vagina. I got told to put my hands under my bum and the doc put a plastic sort of beak inside me and used tissue to mop away any blood. she said that she couldnt tell if i had passed the baby or if i am going to pass the baby. Which begs the reason why she bothered interfering up there. I had my blood taken and told to come back for my scan on wed. When i got home i started to have pains again i went to the toilet and after a wee i looked in the tissue from wipein and there was again more tissue like in the hospital but this time it had a yellowish white blob on it too about the size of a bake bean. I started crying yet again.Simon told me to stop looking at it and put it in the toilet so i did after another 30mins or so. I still have my scan due on wed which is tomorrow i really want everything to be ok. i am so worried that when i get there the moment i have been looking forward to, to see my baby on screen with its heart beating is going to just be a empty screen of nothing.
I told simon i was keeping the baby no matter what nothing is going to change my mind if i have to be with out him i will. Later that day i went to the toilet and i had brown blood like i normally have at the end of my period. I started to panic and cry i called simon up stairs and showed him the sheet of toilet paper.Simon flung his arms around me and said i knew somthing like this was going to happen. I said i dont know what to do simon im so worried.Still sobbing i grabbed my mobile phone and called my friend samantha who had already had 2 pregnancys. I told her what had happened and she assured me that it happened with both of her babys and it was just old blood not to worry unless it was red. For the rest of the day after i had explained what sam had told me he was being really horrible trying to up set me and it worked.I was crying most of the day and everytime i did i would feel a pain in my belly. That night we went to bed and cuddled for what was going to be our last night togther because i was going home on monday.
monday 13th aug
I woke up and turned to simon i told him that i had a bad dream that i was in a shop and started bleeding and a stillborn baby came out of me. Simon thought i was being stupid. I got up and started to pack my things ready to go home. I started to feel deep cramps in my belly and rushed to the toilet. In my knikers was more brown blood i went into simon and told him about it and insisted on him looking too.Simon said that it was more red rather than brown. This started to panic me and i was getting more and more upset.Simon got ready for work and left at 130pm. I went to the toilet again and now red blood was coming out i was so worried. i called my mum not knowing what else to do and because she could not give me any answers i sort of lost my temper and spoke horrible to her before hanging up.I then recieved a call off my midwife she asked me a bunch of questions and infromed me that the only scan avalible for me to attened was not till wed the 15th. After speaking to her i could feel more blood coming out i called my mother again and she said that i have to go to hospital. I got simon home and he drove me to the hospital.
I had only time to stuff my knikers with toilet paper and had no sanitory towels. I asked the nurse for one after she had taken my temp and blood pressure. I went into the toliet and pulled down my knickers on the toilet paper there was some skin like tissue i prayed it was not my baby and everything was going to be alright. I was than taken to a ward where they aparently had a bed for me. Simon and I sat in this sort for tv room for hours untill and doctour came to see me. We were taken into a room with a bed i was to lie down and have her touch my stomoch she said that she was going to have to examine me internaly. Simon decided to wait outside. I took off my trousers and knickers and layed on the bed. Another woman arrived and pulled a lamp over to my vagina. I got told to put my hands under my bum and the doc put a plastic sort of beak inside me and used tissue to mop away any blood. she said that she couldnt tell if i had passed the baby or if i am going to pass the baby. Which begs the reason why she bothered interfering up there. I had my blood taken and told to come back for my scan on wed. When i got home i started to have pains again i went to the toilet and after a wee i looked in the tissue from wipein and there was again more tissue like in the hospital but this time it had a yellowish white blob on it too about the size of a bake bean. I started crying yet again.Simon told me to stop looking at it and put it in the toilet so i did after another 30mins or so. I still have my scan due on wed which is tomorrow i really want everything to be ok. i am so worried that when i get there the moment i have been looking forward to, to see my baby on screen with its heart beating is going to just be a empty screen of nothing.
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If you didn't miscarry, you are going to because you're making yourself so upset. You need to try and stop crying and freaking out. Stay in bed or on the couch and keep your feet up and relax. Your baby cannot survive inside you if you are a huge emotional wreck. Make sure you are eating well and taking prenatal vitamins, and if Simon is upsetting you, don't be around him. Some early miscarriages are caused by stress and emotional grief. Try to avoid situations like that if at all possible.
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I read your other post where you said your boyfriedn is not supportive of your baby. I really think you should go to your Mom's for a while until you can relax. You said your Mom backs you up 100%. Right now yoru boyfriend is probably not your best support :( Sorry but your baby and yourself are more important. When I was 25 I had a miscarriage with all the stress and the lack of support from my ex boyfriend whom I thought was the greatest guy on earth. We never got married. Now 12 years later I have found a 'real' good guy to whom I am married. Believe me when it is the right thing you shouldn't have to fight for it too much... I know right now feels like he is the last one on Earth but he is not. If he is for you he will be there otherwise you will continue with your life and you will find yoru real mate. You are very young :) and right now your baby shoudl be the top of your list. I wish you teh best. Remember that real love is not selfish...
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I am not sure where you are from, but what kind of hospital was that? They should have been able to give you an ultra sound right then and there. No reason you should have to wait to see if you are miscarrying or not. Like someone said, you just need to rest and stop worrying. Crying and stressing yourself out is not healthy for your baby. Especially at a time like this. I know it is hard, but you have to pull yourself together. YOu have to be strong for you and your baby right now. SO relax until tomorrow. Don't get up if you don't have too. Hopefully you are at your mother;s. Let her wait on you hand and foot. right now you shouldn't walk if you don't have too. Sorry if I was rude or kind of harsh at the beginnig, I just don't understand why a doctor or even a hospital would do that. Best of luck sweetie.
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