Heyy! I am still a ways from my due date (August 20), so I can't give you advice from personal experience, but I also want to breastfeed. Talk with your doctor at the hospital about it and let them know that you dont want people in the room. I feel as if I would be uncomfterable with many people in the room. Let them know you want a limit of however many people you want in the room, or none at all. They can't say no. And the father situation, the nurses/front desk doesn't have to give out information of your whereabouts if you tell them ahead of time. They are concerned about your saftey as well as the baby's. Trust me the hospital wont let the father in. And if he does show up, they can escort him out. But if he becomes a problem, the police may need to be involved. Hope I helped out a little and good luck on Thursday! I cant wait to meet my little boy. (:

I can tell you from the stand point of having worked on labor and delievery, that its absoultely 100% up to you , who you want in the delievery room, and who you want to be allowed back to the nursery.

My reccomendation : PLEASE specificy, if this is a security concern of yours, to the front desk staff on the l/d floor and the nurses, that the father is not welcomed back into the room or into the nursery. If you have a current photo of him to show them, so they know who they are looking for.. even better. They can also list you under an alternate name ( alais) , or list you under a certian sercurtiy settings, so that when people call, your name doesnt even show up. - However, if you are going to have family, like your mom, sister , aunts ect visiting you, be sure you let them know, what you are listed under, or what your security code is, so they know you are actually in the hosptial.

There are secuirty procdeures in place for reasons like this. Although some people may not think this is fair, its a hospital.. not a court. While you are in the hospital, he does not have any legal rights to see the child, nor can he "prove" he is actually the childs father.. so you call the shots.

As far as breast feeding.. just be up front with your nurse. The breast feeding will usually take place on Mother baby, not Labor and delievery.. once you have your baby, you are moved to another unit. So when you are moved, tell your nurse about level of comfortablility, or your nursing plan.. Their suggestions are often very helpful, and they are just there to help you, and offer some helpful advice, or to be there to answer any questions for you.. or offer techniques that may make your life a little easier. But if they feel TOO pushy, dont be afraid to say so.. and just say, i'd like to try this on my own for a little while, and if i need some help i'll give you a call.

You are entitled to your own privacy.. just keep in mind , that you only have about a day, with these wonderful, educated nurses, who can offer a lot of helpful little tips..

Best of luck to you!! -- Please be sure to give us an update. We'd love to see pics!

I know that most people if they've got someone they don't want showing up for saftey reasons you just tell the hospital a few days ahead that your due ot have your baby at such and such a time or scheduled to in your case and that your scared for your saftey about the father showing up and you defaintly don't want him around you or to see the baby. as the babies mother you have all rights during and right after the birth. if you request that him not to have access to the baby then tell the security or regestration they should beable to do something.

breastfeeding is an amazing thing. congrats on trying that. if your uncomfortable with everyone being in the room then tell people that you only want so and so there. as for someone showing you how its what they are there for. i'm assuming you've never done that before so they want to make sure the baby is latching on right among the first things and that your holding his/her head right. they don't want you to go home and become more frusterated.

hope it all goes well for you keep us posted