Yeah, I've known a few people that treated me like that. With my divorce I was forced to say good-bye to them, but honestly, my life is SO much better without that dead weight in it.

My early volunteer jobs all ended with crusader campaigns which ended in psychotic breaks. I think. Maybe. Truth is, my memory of those years is not very clear on this point, but for sure, ^it^ was the subject of many a therapy session. For sure, ^it^ resulted in many a fuzzy social exclusion. I am ever more uncertain whether THEY were joining ranks against me or I was up to my old psycho habit of rejecting before I could be rejected. Self-sabotage.

Dunno. . . For certain, it be murky turf.

Continued support while you sort your own, CC.

Patti, that sounds awful. People are so mean and judgmental. The more I seem to try and fit in the more I seem not to fit in. People seem to think it is ok to use me and abuse me. For example this lady had me drive 45 minutes to her house to drop off a stick with data on it rather than stop by my place, which she will be driving right by today. She said she would be too rushed today to drop by...she drives right by. Who could be that rushed they cannot stop for 5 minutes to grab a stick. What that said to me, is I am more important than you. God I dislike people with higher education, a lot seem to have a sense they are so important and entitled. She has 2 Phd's and a bunch of masters too.

Arfie, lots to chew on with your post. Thank you. I really do not know how to handle situations like this so I end up trying to people please and people still end up hating me. I just cannot seem to win. Than I get angry with myself for allowing me to be walked on. I will avoid conflict at all cost. However, the pain and hurt continue to brew until eventually I blow up and then people are shocked because it is so unlike me. I need to get better at tactfully and skillfully handling these things but when I object to something I usually get slammed.

Another part of the problem is my lack of money. These folks in this group are all really well off. Doctors, lawyers, teachers, nurses, etc. Anyway, this lady suggested I put it in dropbox, which has a 30day free trail and then 17.95 a month. Sure nothing for her to pay, but for me, that is a lot of money. They do not see my financial limitations.

I should just quit the group. My doctor's wife is part of the group too and it was a bit weird the other night at Lunafest because he was there. We were both uncomfortable and feeling a bit weird.

Ceece, i don't think they see far enough away from themeslves to care about anyone else, not enough to hate you or expend any energy your way. maybe that is accurate/maybe not, maybe they are like the kids who were so horrible in my third grade ... maybe not. i think i feel bad for them for some reasons. they are stuck in these places together with one another.

i'm so sorry you are hurting from the way you were treated, that sounds so unkind. that whole social thing is brutal. i don't know how 'they' do it, if they care, in this social side of their public lives. i think they have to run so fast they cannot make time for a quick stop anywhere.

i'm glad there is you xo

I think they are clueless and judgemental people often judge themselves the most...unfortunately they take it out on others. It sounds really hard CC, big hug to you and know that you do not deserve that

Rejection doesn't always feel the greatest and I'm truly sorry for you. But one day they'll probably wish that they invited you. I know I did when I got rejected and rejected others from a certain event.

But in all, I would just keep being kind to them even if they're rude. (Usually when I get rejected I don't mind cause then it means I can do stuff I want to do)

Anyways I hope this helps you on some level.
((Hugs))

Hi!

I experienced something similar in college. I was bullied and left out no matter how much I tried.
I learned that this was not the group for me. What I think might be helpful for you to also learn is that not everyone is going to be the perfect fit for yo so you have find the right fit. Trust me I know exactly how you feel and the hurt you have but you are not alone. Try and find a group that has similar interests and mindsets as you.
I really hope this helps!

I don't do relationships well or conflict. I tend to not know how to handle stuff like this or how to not take it personally. What happens is it builds up and then I explode and over react to something small, look like a total crazy nut bar and get frustrated. Then I walk away because I am embarrassed at my outburst.

thank you for the continued support. It has been a bit of a rough month and my emotions have been very up and down, well mostly down. Lots of things going on, new boss, losing my volunteer job on the support line, backing out of another volunteer job, car repairs, leaking roof, more car repairs, more car repairs, lack of money for more car repairs, credit cards over their limit, lots of rain days (grey and depressing), now being rejected, etc etc etc. Lot of little annoyances adding up. Today is also the anniversary of my Dad's funeral 2 years ago. It was shortly after the funeral I lost my job and was hospitalized. It just seems to be one thing after another.
I will get through this, depression does not last forever

HI Spiral. I am so sorry you were treated this way. As sad is this may be, and speaking in the shoes of one of those people, it's difficult, and take a lot of humility and selflessness for most people of higher educational and economic status to see people of lessor as equals and just as important as themselves and anyone else. I don't say that to excuse them just stating how it is in this often times cruel world. So my advice is this, If you choose to continue in this volunteer group or future volunteer groups focus more on the people you are helping rather than the people you are working with. You will most likely find more satisfaction and a better quality of people with that approach. Considering how they are, are they really the type of people you want as friends anyway. I am certain their prejudices does not stop at educational and economic differences. Instead of saying woe is me to their rejection, I would say good ridden. It's their sad loss and not yours.