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My husband died a year and a half ago, 3 months after my husbands death, I was lonely and vulnerable and met this guy who was a mental health therapist. We spent a lot of days and nights together rather quickly, I found comfort in his voice and presence, I thought god sent me this man to help me live a new life without my husband.
I ended up pregnant the first month of knowing him. By the second and third month, my intuition would tell me that somethings were off, but I would ignore and think he is not capable of hurting me. He knew I was newly widowed and was carrying his baby while grieving.
A year later, I just found yesterday that he was seeing someone before me and kept seeing her until I was 5mos pregnant.
I feel so betrayed.
I feel like I lost my husband all over again.
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
I'm not a shrink or therapist, but a betrayal like that? In my experience? Leads to big time grief. You found a way forward and it turned out he wasn't honest. So, you did lose someone all over again ----- and I won't say he was a stand-in for your late husband, or whatever, and he was a professional therapist to boot from what you said, and that was *not* okay of him, knowing the situation you were in. Even if you weren't his patient? He still knows better, and IMO, deserves a kick in the pants.
That said... I am so sorry you lost your husband, and then were betrayed by someone you trusted when you were so down. Puma-strength comfort to you.
In my opine, that sense of betrayal from the BF is more than a feeling. I would call that straight up betrayal and I can easily imagine the feeling of losing your husband all over again.
So? ? ? You don't give much of a timeline here, nor are you under any obligation to give one, but. . . Has the baby been born? Any prior children? How you holding through the confusion.
Whether you choose to answer, or not, welcome aboard.
Then when our divorce got to court, my spouse screamed curses at me and the judge. The last time I saw my former spouse was with arms and legs flailing as the bailiffs did their job keeping order in the court by force. It was scary to think I'd actually married this person,
I switched therapists at the time to find out why I picked such a person to marry in the first place. Looking at it that way brought me here 3 years later.
For the person that asked, yes the baby has been born, this was our 1st baby together and he cheated the first 6mos of my pregnancy and I had no clue.
How can someone cheat on a regular basis while living with you?? I guess they find time in any direction they can. Like the other person said his spouse cheated while he was at support groups. This makes me so sick. He found time. I don’t know how but he did.