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When *I* Know Best

arfie
arfie

I have come to wonder if absolute certainty is one of my meanest psych symptoms. With the recent downturns in the welfare of my grandchildren (2, 5 and one on the way), my heavily theraputed worry habits have been seeking absolute certainty for all. Alas, when I get experty, my expertise tends to declare other people incompetent while I start forcing solutions that are not overly practical. Insert therapy exercise here. 


This morning finds me contemplating the difference between "Absolute Certainty" and "Self-confidence."


My contemplations of absolute certainty bring me images of a 2 year old throwing a tantrum in a grocery line because that candy bar they want is the only thing that can make things right in the world.


Self-confidence has the strength to persevere, whether I get what I think is best, or knot. I can work with what life sends me on life's own terms.


Thoughts? Reality checks? Tacky attempts at humor? Am I making sense?

Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
I never had any kids myself, so the thought of grandkids is even more remote for me. But I hear you, and thinking on it, it occurred to me that the most uncomfortable position to be in might when you actually do know best but have to keep your expertise to yourself even then. I like when you say "I can work with what life sends me on life's own terms."
Community LeaderLeo
Leo
You make sense.

FOr me, the problem is not in the wanting certainty but in trying to enforce one on all, when one size does not fit all. But then too much "wiggle room" means bad things might happen. ANd then and then and then and then... I find I've swallowed my own tail. ...

So, yeah, work with what you get and not with what you can't, I guess? You're keeping an eye on you and on what matters to you, and nobody can ask more of themselve sor otherse, IMHO.

Gentle support to you and to your GKs. Sort as sort can...
jewells1
jewells1
That kind of muckety muck mixed with some snotty knots, likely are the source if my silence.

hugs.
EvergreenDreamer
EvergreenDreamer
Hmmmm i think i agree. I think of absolute certainty as the word “ never” and self confidence as the while I am hopeful that I wouldnt be caught dead in that bright pink tutu with a cocktail glass in my hand at the end of any giving day, I wont say it will “ never “ happen. Triple hugs
arfie
arfie
Yea, the my own use of absolute words such as never, ever, always, etc., as a psycho nag flag that I am sliding back to delusional certainty. 100% of anything is rare in nature, if not impossible.

For sure, in my strictly personal herstory, the days in my life where I was most certain I was the rightiest right in the whole right pack were the days I was being put into restraints and pumped with heavy doses of anti-psychotics.

Doesn't want to go *there* again. . .
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