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I'm extremely upset about something...you may think is me being stupid or something.
Believe it or not, I have formed a very intense view about ..."circumcision."
Except I look on it as genital mutilation, pretty much, and just as objectionable in a US hospital as it is in a village in Africa. Just as bad on males as it is on females.
The main issue being...if you do not have informed consent of the owner of the genitals in question, you morally ought not to go lopping off anything.
You CAN'T get consent from a baby or a small child!
Therefore something our society considers totally routine...is, to me a human rights violation.
Just because it's accepted does not make it right!!!
There are arguments for and against circumcision...let them be made to the guy who owns the genitals in question.
It's HIS BODY! Parts of it should not be whacked off to suit his parents or anybody else.
And doctors don't mention about 100 boys a year die of circ complications.
I didn't discuss it with my brother, because I never thought he'd have his child hurt after the boy had just spent a month in an NICU.
Well, he did, and I'm... just beyond outraged.
And PTSD triggered. I want to HURT SOMEONE. I want to MAKE SOMEONE PAY FOR THIS OUTRAGE.
This has been just exploding in my head for the past 20 hours or so.
I have decided that I will not let myself get close at all to these kids based on this.
Why?
Because if my brother is able to allow someone to do something so horrible to his child so CASUALLY...What he did disgusts me beyond belief.
I don't want to be around for it to hurt this bad when he lets the next horrible thing happen, or does it himself.
I can't protect the kids myself.
He just proved he's willing to thoughtlessly go along with something horrible.
As long as it's what other people do.
I don't want to get involved with those kids and watch them get turned into little versions of me and not be able to stop it...it'll make me want to blow my brains out.
I don't want to be put through this over, and over and over. I'm not going to. I will not.
Believe it or not, I have formed a very intense view about ..."circumcision."
Except I look on it as genital mutilation, pretty much, and just as objectionable in a US hospital as it is in a village in Africa. Just as bad on males as it is on females.
The main issue being...if you do not have informed consent of the owner of the genitals in question, you morally ought not to go lopping off anything.
You CAN'T get consent from a baby or a small child!
Therefore something our society considers totally routine...is, to me a human rights violation.
Just because it's accepted does not make it right!!!
There are arguments for and against circumcision...let them be made to the guy who owns the genitals in question.
It's HIS BODY! Parts of it should not be whacked off to suit his parents or anybody else.
And doctors don't mention about 100 boys a year die of circ complications.
I didn't discuss it with my brother, because I never thought he'd have his child hurt after the boy had just spent a month in an NICU.
Well, he did, and I'm... just beyond outraged.
And PTSD triggered. I want to HURT SOMEONE. I want to MAKE SOMEONE PAY FOR THIS OUTRAGE.
This has been just exploding in my head for the past 20 hours or so.
I have decided that I will not let myself get close at all to these kids based on this.
Why?
Because if my brother is able to allow someone to do something so horrible to his child so CASUALLY...What he did disgusts me beyond belief.
I don't want to be around for it to hurt this bad when he lets the next horrible thing happen, or does it himself.
I can't protect the kids myself.
He just proved he's willing to thoughtlessly go along with something horrible.
As long as it's what other people do.
I don't want to get involved with those kids and watch them get turned into little versions of me and not be able to stop it...it'll make me want to blow my brains out.
I don't want to be put through this over, and over and over. I'm not going to. I will not.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
They scream in agony the whole time, just as I would if someone were cutting off very sensitive parts of my genitalia.
...I'm horrified he'd let someone do that to his baby. Just horrified.
I could write a lot about the pros and cons of the procedure, and the fact it's encouraged to use topical if not injected anesthesia (but not general, as that is very risky)----
But the truth is, I'm just so sorry you're so upset and so triggered and so certain your brother will permit further and even worse harm to his children and that you feel you must distance yourself from them.
Gentle purring wishes for your peace,
Leo
I'm so sorry that you're hurting... You have a great compassion... I think it often comes down to ignorance of the public and a procedure that's been accepted for so long... Fortunately more and more people are now saying no to it
Great big hug of comfort for you and a blessing.... It not done in Canada as often as it once was fortunately... . xo
You're right that it's not necessary by any medical means, it's been normalized culturally. Talk about a weird thing being made normal.
So sorry it's triggering your feelings about child abuse. I can certainly understand.
The doctor thought I was crazy not to have this done to my son - like I was a granola crunching hippie or something.
I think things are starting to turn around and activists are helping to turn the tide. Would it help you to speak out against the procedure? Or would that be more triggering?
Doctors usually "fix" intersex people to please the parents, at a very early age.
This often left the person in the wrong sex/gender, which they then need to transition out of.
This left them with a lot of cut nerve endings.
In some cases it meant a childhood dotted with painful surgeries.
What was done to these people struck me as very profoundly wrong.
So...eventually I thought...
At what point does not-medically necessary surgery on the genitals of a very young child become ok?
...And that's how I ended up looking at infant circumcision as a violation of a child's body.
No less an abuse because it's accepted practice.
I won't.
It will hurt too bad.
I can take a lot of pain, but not watching it all happen again...No. No. I can't stop it and I can't stand to feel it.
Wow, I just was contacted by a transgender student I'm helping through a bout of depression during transitioning. I found out about the new book Trans Bodies Trans Selves. So now because of what you shared here from the gender forum I get even more completely how this topic relates to that one and "fixing" with surgery. Thanks for sharing that.
Muji
That being said I am sorry this is causing you so much pain.