I don't know if it's too late, but I'd not be to hasty to hand over the house. If there's money to be made and you anticipate a struggle getting a job, that $ may be much needed.

Best of luck.

I don't take sides in conflicts, cuz there are two sides to every story. My sister got mad at me for that all three times she divorced. So, I'll say that I hope both you and your ex do okay in the separation. Being in a crash pad is no fun either. Separation and divorce suck. Do you have kids?

Good for you in mapping the transition out. I went through it in 2000. The job hunt stands out as the daunting part, but with your background I'm thinking it has really interesting possibilities. Good luck with the bus schedules!

Muji

I feel pretty solid about handing over the house. Our two sons are grown but the homestead remains the family center. 18 years of housewifery have given me a solid bond with the growing family's but that is not so for the busy man who financed that bonding. He wants to fix that. I am hoping his having the house will help and believe the whole family will be stronger if it works. It feels bigger than paying rent.

From my side, my faithful heart does not have the power to still my wandering soul. The husband is a homebody, work-a-holic nature and all. My apartment will only be a launch pad to my field work. I am pretty determined to find a way back to my mid-continental hydrology research. I want my next privately owned vehicle to be a trawler. Only need a quarter million or so greenbacks to buy it. How many burgers will I have to flip for that stake?

Hey, an old gal's gotta have her dreams...

A trawler! I got a visual. To me, in my opinion, it seems you have thunk this thru pretty well, thinking of everyone all around.
I have long thought that marriage is really mostly for the kids, and the kids are grown. Good job.

You sound very brave and together. I am sure you will feel a roller coaster of emotion as time goes by-at least I did when I went through a marriage ending. It sounds like you are being kind to yourself-which for me is always the hardest thing to remember to do. Good luck with all of it.

Family is bigger than an address, however much a stable address might help center us. I can slide into full hate mode without changing the fact that we have people calling us mom and dad.

might even let the sleezy geez ride on my trawler if he remembers to call me, "Captain."

"Captain." Ha!

How DO you do it, arfie? Still manage to be so funny at a time like this? I almost feel guilty laughing, but I figure in all honesty you've got to know. Hope we're there in support of you as much as you lift our spirits with your quips--captain!

Muji

Back to my hero, Kahlil Gibran:

"If we could but appreciate the daily miracles of our lives, our pain would be no less wondrous than our joy."

Where there is appreciation, there is a smile. Compassionate humor and appreciation are running buddies. One is never far from the other.

Emphasis on, "compassionate humor." Cruel humor is a flag to work my program.

I really have a lot of faith in you Arfie....You'll probably headed to something better even if it takes a while...

I read this article and I enjoyed it..Its relevant to what we both going through..

http://www.purpleclover.com/relationships/158-id-thank-everybody-who-ever-divorced-or-fired-me/?icid=maing-grid7%7Cmain5%7Cdl25%7Csec1_lnk2%26pLid%3D338643

LOL!! you made me laugh..thanks I needed that..