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support for my best friend?

Beatha
Beatha

I don't know if it's okay to ask for this...


My best friend just called me in a crisis. That's the second crisis call I got from her in two days. She's suicidal, but could promise me she'd call again before she does anything.


Please don't tell me to tell her to call the crisis line. Firstly, she'd feel like I'm letting her down, like I don't want her to call me. I do! And secondly, last time she did they told her to go to sleep and tomorrow everything would look different. She's got sleeping problems. The next day everything did not look different. She has other people apart from me she trusts and can call - that network works.


Please don't tell me to tell her to go inpatient. Please trust me on that one: I will tell her to go inpatient if I see it's the only way to keep her safe. We've been best friend for 14 years now, I know her well. Meantime, she knows she can come stay with my husband and me anytime and already did for some days.


She's looking for a therapist, but had incredibly bad luck with it. I keep supporting her in that and make phone calls for her whenever required.


I'm just asking if you would pray for her and/or send her supportive thoughts? I don't want to give away her name, so I'll just give you her initials: I.B. I hope God doesn't need an address.


Thank you all, I hope it's okay to ask for this, if not... well, just ignore it. Sorry.


Hugs to everyone

arfie
arfie
I hope it's okay for you to ask this, Beatha. It sounds like important support to me. Can I add some gentle support for you as you sort your way to being a good friend in a time of need?

Healing hopes for all. No exceptions.
silverlight
silverlight
Just said a prayer for her,and for you,Dear Beatha....

Hugs.
SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK
Beatha, the two of you need prayer and support as you go through this challenge. Done.
arancha
arancha
I am here for you if you need to talk, as being suicidal myself and not being able to get the right psychiatrist for me, I'd tell you that all I want from my friends is to be there with me, sometimes with nothing to say, but to be present, mostly physically. Being in company makes me stronger, words are hard to process and sometimes there aren't right ones to say when one is that fragile.
Swimfast33
Swimfast33
It is nice she has a good friend in you. Hope she gets help and gets to a happier place too. I don't think I could tell a friend so you must be very open and kind.
I feel there is shame with that feeling of wanting to go home or were ever we do go. Perhaps your friend will be just fine as she can open up to you
Ladybug7
Ladybug7
She's blessed to have you as a friend. I've just said a prayer for both of you. Hugs.
mlr0853
mlr0853
Healing in body mind and soul...love and light to your friend and to you...plus anyone else who needs healing energy...
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Glad you reached out here for support for both of you, Beatha. Many of us here know how it feels to be caught in that downward spiral your friend is in. Having a friend to talk to can really be an anchor to help us not drown in those powerful emotions.

Let us know how to support you as you support
I.B. and keep us posted, ok? Prayers ongoing.
Beatha
Beatha
Thank you all for your kindness and generosity. Your support means a lot - for her and for me, too (thank you for including me in your prayers and support).

@ arancha: I wish I could be physically there for her, but getting to her place is 3 hours travel for me, taking different busses and trains. My own cPTSD symptoms make this impossible for me.

I.B. called me today, a very hopeful and positive call. She gets support from a "coach" now, and it sounds like she can really connect to her and trust her and she's there to support I.B., not just try to get her back to work asap. Finding a psychiatrist is a work in progress, but things look hopeful there, too.

Thank you all so much. Hugs
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Gentle hug ….. You are both in my prayers......xo
beach_bum
beach_bum
hi Beatha, U r both in my prayers. I.B. is blessed to have u in her life. Gentle and healing hugs 4 both of u. God doesn't need an address. He knows everyone and there wear abouts. Nothing is impossible 4 God. I will continue praying 4 the 2 of u.
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