Big time.

Not with my sexual identity but I go from being asexual to hypersexual with occasional lashings of near normal. Then there is the whole kiss me , kill me crap sauted gently with tie me up and tie me down finished with a healthy topping of I WILL make you my bitch. But that's all really :-)

I did. Now, not so much.

In what ways do you struggle with it?

lol Everybody struggles with sexuality! There is nobody who doesn't in some way. Whether it's getting horny at an inappropriate time, and a crush on an inappropriate person, or what.. we allll struggle with this drive.

I feel safe as a "Q", not straight but not put in a box.
I feel sorry for straight guys... LOL, they suffer much... In my experience.

I also don't know anybody who doesn't suffer. The suicide rate for gay guys is much higher than for straight ones.

easy short question, that can get very complicated in the answering,, which was probably why it was phrased that way.

but I'm not into thinking about my pain right now. nope.. I'm staying on the surface of things for today... I know everybody struggles, but am not going to wade in that water today. maybe tomorrow.

guess that means I just disqualified my self from this thread for now?

I'm just horny and nothing to do about it at the moment.. maybe that's struggle enough for me for now. :P

yea sometimes. i still struggle with enjoying sex but i had a bad experience before i met my bf

no. i am abstaining. 3 years now and counting, and i don't find men attractive, so no issues there either.

since i severed my achilles, i can't even rub one out, in case i tense up and snap it again. it was actually a blessing in disguise.

25 months and counting for me. Pretty amazed at how much more clarity the lack of sex brings.

well, it's clarity if the lack of sex is more than just lack of sex. If it is absention and celibacy for higher reasons then yes, we get more clarity. But if horny drives me crazy then I tend to lose my clarity.

And yeah, that's exactly what it is. A life choice.

Something happened to 'horny' after a year or so...it kind of started visiting less frequently and with less intensity. Thank GOD! :)

Sure. As I've posted here during the last year, I have c-PTSD from sexual abuse at age 10, violence in the home from both parents throughout my upbringing and even when I went home to visit my parents as an adult if I didn't bring a girlfriend, wife, or friend home with me for the holidays, and then from 6 years in combat.

Wondering about sexuality if you're molested is natural, especially if it was before puberty and then your family is homophobic and both parents are violent toward you to "make you a man" at puberty. My mother was especially concerned that a male pedophile's sexual assault when I was 10 had made me gay, as if I'd been bitten by a vampire and would become a vampire now, too. So she felt I should be beaten regularly, either by her own hand or by having my father administer savage beatings.

The odd thing is that when I grew up, I thought my questions about sexuality stemmed from my home experiences which were so extreme. Not so in my experience. I found along the way that people with "normal" upbringings very different from mine had quite a number of questions and insecurities about sexuality. I found people who became sex addicts and who became unable to maintain faithful relationships when, despite my own traumas as a child around sex, I was very fortunate in those areas and enjoyed full, monogamous, long-term relationships.

I am now celibate in my old age, but really because I have stage 3 kidney disease and diabetes, and the physical challenges are there for me. But as much as I respect how wounded we can be as survivors with PTSD in this area, I am grateful that it hasn't been a lifelong impediment to me. It can be, but it's not a life sentence. There's hope for us in all areas, even if there's no cure, just speaking from my own individual experience.

I struggle major big time with who I am like am I straight, bsexual or lesbians. Can someone relate?


ladydi1961

Nope. Can't relate to that. Sorry.

Maybe it's my age and my life experience, but I'm not sure I would care about labeling my sexuality. I am who I am.

I gave up the struggle about two years ago. I decided I really just had better things to do, and now I'm hoping it'll just wither away like a snowball in the sun . . .