Welcome SayYes..... I imagine it would be really upsetting to be constantly arguing

PTSD is an anxiety disorder.... I'll put up the signs and symptoms for you

Are you worried about an accident with him on a bike?... I know a lot of people that are into bikes really love them and the activity of biking

I'm sorry that you and your husband are going through such a rough time.... I hope that the therapy will help you to hear one another....

Big hug

Symptoms of PTSD

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20355967

I think constant arguing can cause stress on both the body and mind.

PTSD is associated with any trauma you might be going through or have experienced which can include arguing.

I think you are doing the right thing by seeking therapy. If you'll let it and be open to suggestion it can help tremendously.

On the other hand by involving too many people in your marriage with a bias opinion it can hurt more then help.

Seek therapy for yourself, independent of the marriage counseling, is the best advice I can give (and feel free to disregard it). Constant yelling just wears us down, and that's without any anger in it, so.... healing hopes for you.

My spouse and i also went to counseling. I told the Therapist in front of him (after enumerating all the ways i felt unsafe and unsecure by his dangerous unilateral decisions) that i was very jumpy as if i had PTSD. Spouse immediately jumped to mocking, But we were both told then that yes, years of uncertainty, shocks, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, (or really many kinds of events either singular or constantly recurring that traumatize you) can cause it. It'd be more Complex PTSD in that case (i think). But i had many symptoms relatable; not all just from the marriage alone but certainly exacerbated by it to get where i was, and still am in a lot of ways.

i am definitely no expert, but i think i said that to the therapist because "Post-Trauma Stress Disorder" to me meant after repeated traumas that shook me to my core, i became very stressed about anything that looked like a recurrence (and i was right as often as i was wrong about what he called my doomsday worries). And perhaps, yes, it was disordered thinking. But that is where i was. It was why i acted like i did (very jumpy and scared, deja-vu experiences, having nightmares, etc). I said it as a description to convey to the therapist, and that was when i first learned it can be a real problem for a history of repeated stress, and not always a singular event.

Anyway that was years ago and now my personal psychiatrist is saying the same thing, in his bundle of diagnoses.
Take care of yourself!

SayYes, sorry to say I'm divorced because wit my ptsd I just can't tolerate arguing like you describe. I was married to a lawyer. Enough said.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I think individual counseling would be a great place to start if joint counseling isn't working. I know you're only on your 2nd session, and good job to you both for going. Keep it up. Make sure you get the ability to explain how you feel in those sessions. It might take weeks but it will give you some clarity about the future. Hugs to you!