Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Support Group
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I will give you the short version of my story. As a child growing up my father was very abusive to me, my sister and mother. This went on till i was 13 years old when my mom divorced him. About a year and half later she met this man she becames involved with. He would stay over late some nights watching tv while we all slept. I really thought that was weird. My bedroom was in our basement. One night i was awaken to him touch my back and butt. He was putting his hand in my panties. i got up and ran to my sisters room. i dont know why i didnt go tell my mom right away but i didnt till the next day. of course she believed him. she ended up marrying him and is still with him today. this happened when i was 16years old. a few years later i married and was divorced within a year and half. he wouldnt keep a job. i then got with a man that was a drunk and abusive. i put up with this for 14 years. yes i was very stupid. i left him because i met a very nice guy. i am married to him today. My question is i have problems with sleeping at night and him waking me up during the night to have sex. Could this be because of my past???? my husband that i am with now knows all about my past and is very understanding, kind and gentle with me. I am just so confused because i want all this to go away.
I too went through the hell of abusive partners until I found my hubby that is the total opposite of what I had been use to. Just like your hubby, mine is totally supportive and caring. We never fight, he is patient with me in all my craziness and he does nothing but build me up. My problem too is sex. For me I just don't want to do it but I feel obligated to make him happy that way. I know it's from my past abuses and he is understanding, but I just want to be normal for him and not have flash backs when he touches me.
I guess through all my rambling I'm just trying to say that there is nothing wrong with you. You had a traumatic event happen to you by being woken up by a predator, felt betrayed and demoralized by your mother and now you just want to be "normal" when the hubs feels like getting frisky in the middle of the night. Best advice is to make sure you lay some boundaries with your hubby about not waking you up that way until you can get some help to overcome your trauma. Neither of you want to become resentful of the other one because of someone else doing that to you. Talk to a therapist that does EMDR, it's the quickest and most effective way to overcome trauma. Feel free to message me anytime, I'm more than happy to chat.
(((HUGS)))
Kim :o)