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I'm so beyond angry right now. He stalked me, and attempted to murder my current boyfriend by running him over with his truck twice trying to get to me...
then he ran and hid from the police for a day...
and what do they do? release him on bail so he can finish school.
They extended the trial date.
They just extended it again, so he can graduate
His past arrests for domestic violence are thrown out because it "doesn't matter or pertain to this current charge". they don't want the jury to sentence him based on past events.
The prosecutor knows he stalked me... trespassed... was even told by roommates and friends to leave me alone. but guess what? he isn't being charged for stalking. because "stalking" is more difficult to prove. even though he did it with probable intent to harm.
He gets to fucking run someone over, probably coming after me... get out and finish his fucking school while getting it paid for by the military, and getting his GI bill stipend to attend. how the fuck is this possible?
while i'm at home, here with my boyfriend who is proving more and more to be a wonderful man in my life...
but he is so injured from this and never shows it. he can barely tie his damn shoes cause it hurts him so bad but he wont show it, he still goes to work. his xrays are screwed, you can see chips of bone from his back floating around and ribs that do not belong in that position. his hand and wrist is fractured.
how the hell does this man get to run around free???
I didnt even get this much leeway when i got a DUI in 2006. they ripped my license for 90 days for negligent driving, made me pay immediate fees, had to have a breathalizer and pay for it, then got caught driving on a suspended license trying to get to work so i could pay the stupid fees during that 90 days... and they nailed me. that was 8 years ago, my only trouble EVER with the law, and i wasnt even plastered or driving messed. i shouldnt have been driving after having 2 beers so quick, but yah.
how the hell did i get more fucked over on a DUI than he does with attempted murder and stalking with previous arrests!!!F!!!!!!!!
it doesnt matter that he might eventually "get his" and i should be patient. he might not even do much jail time if he is prosecuted,
OH... and restitution he will have to pay for the medical bills and compensation? no matter what the amount, even if its a million dollars, he has his entire life to pay it off, at a minimum 25$ a month.
so how is "justice" going to be served? I'm trying to keep myself calm about all this, but it is killing my relationship and causing me to just be distant and disassociated and completely unemotional in everyday life just to function.
then he ran and hid from the police for a day...
and what do they do? release him on bail so he can finish school.
They extended the trial date.
They just extended it again, so he can graduate
His past arrests for domestic violence are thrown out because it "doesn't matter or pertain to this current charge". they don't want the jury to sentence him based on past events.
The prosecutor knows he stalked me... trespassed... was even told by roommates and friends to leave me alone. but guess what? he isn't being charged for stalking. because "stalking" is more difficult to prove. even though he did it with probable intent to harm.
He gets to fucking run someone over, probably coming after me... get out and finish his fucking school while getting it paid for by the military, and getting his GI bill stipend to attend. how the fuck is this possible?
while i'm at home, here with my boyfriend who is proving more and more to be a wonderful man in my life...
but he is so injured from this and never shows it. he can barely tie his damn shoes cause it hurts him so bad but he wont show it, he still goes to work. his xrays are screwed, you can see chips of bone from his back floating around and ribs that do not belong in that position. his hand and wrist is fractured.
how the hell does this man get to run around free???
I didnt even get this much leeway when i got a DUI in 2006. they ripped my license for 90 days for negligent driving, made me pay immediate fees, had to have a breathalizer and pay for it, then got caught driving on a suspended license trying to get to work so i could pay the stupid fees during that 90 days... and they nailed me. that was 8 years ago, my only trouble EVER with the law, and i wasnt even plastered or driving messed. i shouldnt have been driving after having 2 beers so quick, but yah.
how the hell did i get more fucked over on a DUI than he does with attempted murder and stalking with previous arrests!!!F!!!!!!!!
it doesnt matter that he might eventually "get his" and i should be patient. he might not even do much jail time if he is prosecuted,
OH... and restitution he will have to pay for the medical bills and compensation? no matter what the amount, even if its a million dollars, he has his entire life to pay it off, at a minimum 25$ a month.
so how is "justice" going to be served? I'm trying to keep myself calm about all this, but it is killing my relationship and causing me to just be distant and disassociated and completely unemotional in everyday life just to function.
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I hope he goes down for attempted murder...that would entail a nice long stretch. And shouldn't his vehicle insurance pay for your guy's injuries, at least in part?
He should be charged harshly, this is by far not his first offense. He did it in the Navy as well, but he is so charismatic and manipulative that somehow, he has most of it hidden.
get this... HE WAS IN ROTC for the army... ranking 35th in the ENTIRE nation... school paid for.
and they let him go? and the school let him continue?
my mind just doesnt want to let that go...
ive struggled as a single mom through college and work while his was handed to him and his mother takes care of his son.
why the hell should HE be fucking protected ? what does he do for ANYONE? im getting a degree to help people with ptsd, and to protect people from this? how am i supposed to have faith in everything i am doing when i am being shown that it's somewhat futile?
1. Civil suit for personal damages/injury. Dunno tort law in your area, but worth a look-see, to help with expenses.
2. COnsult local chapter of ACLU to find out if there's undue bias in the case---or any other legal eagle organization that might sniff around why a judge would go easy on someone with that history, whcih any decent prosecutor should at least have been able to push harder about IMHO. I point this option out solely because (with all due respect to veterans, because my parents are/were BoTH vets).... waving military service is a tried-and-true "boohoo for me" tactic. (Used sucessfully in 2 divorces, one child custody case, three bar fights, and one malicious wounding with a firearm by of my uncles/cousins, who used the American flag and their "service" to "prove" their "good standing". Sorry, this hits a hot button for me, Dracona, but I figure maybe you can profit by what was done by my a-hole fam....)
3. Call this dip-wah's insurance company about the needed medical treatment for your boyfriend. Bone bits not in right place? That's serious. Get copies of all his medical records, signed by the doctors if needed not just xeroxed by some brain-dead flunky, b/c that's something that if the dip-wah's insured? His company should cover unless he didn't cover liability, in which case we're back to civil suit for damages.
4. See about getting formal depositions, etc., from all witnesses to this guy's treatment of you. And under no circumstances threaten to sue the cops. Ever. Ever ever ever. (Long sad sick story, did I mention my toxic fam enough yet?) Apologies to the honest police of our various nations, but it must be said that some cops are not all shiny clean examples of public service. Anyway, have those formal depositions/notarized statements handy for all future use.
Note: I AM NOT AN ATTORNEY OF ANY KIND. NOR DO I HAVE LEGAL TRAINING. THat's all stuff done to/by my many many toxic relatives. So this is all observational anecdotal, take it, leave it, flush it, whatever.
Short version: See what you CAN do, accept what you can't, and know we're all here for you.
Big gentle purrs,
Leo
I know it's infuriating, but comparing your situation to his will only drive you insane.
My only two cents? Maybe it's time to write to the judge's superior. Can you dig around hand find his/her history? Maybe there's a pattern there???
Hugs.
Short of murder, that will get him a lot of leeway. My first did kill a man while at home on Emergency leave for his sister. She had been poisoned at a party with toil, an industrial cleaner, and had slipped into a coma. He came home to find the doctors shaking there head about her possibility of survival with damage to her brain. He found the guy that did it and took him out with the same Glock (9mm) he used to hunt me. Sat down waited for the police, admitted guilt. Military took over because he was GI, 90 in a hospital for mental stress and back to the service. His sister did survive and fully recovered.
I am sorry but they will do what ever to save their trained personnel.
I will pray for your boyfriends recovery, he does sound like a keeper. and that you also recover too.
We are here. Jewells.