I have had PTSD for several years now, due to being a stalking victim. A short synopsis of my prior life and dilemma:

As a little girl I was sexually abused by my own father and his friends.
All of my family lives in Europe, I live in the U.S.

My father has abused my mother on a daily basis for her entire life.

I have not visited due to fear of facing my father, now that I know what really happened.
Subconsciously I had closed off the part of the abuse for over 40 years.

My parents are in ill health, and I am worried about the health of my mother.

I want to visit her but can not stomach the thought of having to see my father.
They have always expected me to stay in their house when visiting. I have never talked to any of them about the abuse that I now know about. I am not sure my father ever really told my mother about it, probably not.

My brother knows but wants nothing to do with the truth because he gets a part of his income from my parents.

So what do you guys think I should do? Visit and confront? (I scream just thinking about that)

I want to see only my mom, but my father would be absolutely furious if I would do that.

Suggestions?
Posted on 04/08/14, 07:43 pm