I love babies and am excited about their arrival.

It is the Mrs celebraions I am gagging on.

Please don't make me play Barbie.

Im sorry i dont have any mantras for guilty feelings except show up there and stay shortly and then leave, set your mind for going, prepare yourself mentaly

I do like babies but i dont like much babie showers.

Im in the same positions like you, it is some celebration at my parents house and at my sister house too this week and next, i already feel guilty because just idea to go there, and it is my family, get's me into anxiety and i do not know how im going to do it, because im expected to be there

And im going to try to do same as i gave suggestion for you, set my mind for going, hope it will work for actual days, until then im not going to think much about family gatherings

Arfie,

What might happen if you plan to meet w/ the pregnant mom separately to tell her you are happy the baby is coming?

Offering your place for the party could be made separate than you having to be there to host/ess such an event. If prospective mom is loving family or family-in-law member she should understand you well enough to not corner you about this.

You are entitled to your boundaries. These sort of events make me gag - and I love babies too.

I'm not much of a drinker but sometimes a glass of Pinot Noir foggs everything a little so it can be tolerable.

When i have to attend something i really..oh, i was just at a polynisian show (YUCK)....yeah a glass of wine made it so i did not say "get these girls shaking their arse off my face right now and ran out of there!"

Congrats on your grandbaby!

Seems like sexism lends itself to idiocy for both genders, whether the venue is toilet paper swaddling or tassels on the nipples.

So far my most effective mantra so far is, "The heart goes where it goes."

I can't help disliking the Mrs trip any more than the Mrs's can help loving it.

At least I don't have to smell anybody's hind end, uno. I don't drink much, but I might see about introducing introducing a wet bar to the Mrs events. A stiff drink might, indeed, help.

nix on the drinking.

ohh, I guess I see more of what you mean by the Mrs thing. I never had to do that. I think I went to one shower one time. I think I just tell them I can't make it. lol I go to wedding services but tend to not go to receptions.

Alas, no help to offer, though much empathy. Just had to chime in to say after a bad day you made me smile with your spelling pun, mixing "misery" with "Mrs." Cracked me up again, arfie, and I wasn't feeling much like laughing. Thanks.

I taught ESL for years to students from all the languages of the world. THE most standardized lesson I faced was, "How say this?" with the student pointing at an "MRS." The standard guess was, "Mers?"

It became known as, "The Mers Lesson." The pun potential is irresistible...

Even with advanced students, it was dangerous to explain the etymology. The Mrs's of our country are generally touchy about being called, Mistress. The Mers Lesson is, "Write this, say this and never question." Sums the Mrs logic for my twisted mind...

Then we get to the plural... Would two Mrs's be MissUses or Missi?

Okay, okay... I'll quit my Miss Behaving now...

this is what i tell myself, "who cares about those other people. they don't care about me."
take care of yourself first.
everybody else takes care of themselves first.

Mnada a todos a la mierda.Menos al bebe....tomate un vaso de vino rojo y disfruta de el bebito. :)

Hope i'm not being obnoxious..i had a glass of vino myself...Tha't all it takes..hehe..

Salud! Mejor morir por el vino que vivir por el polvo!

Si', arfie, si'!