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arfie
arfie

Recent forum discussion about being able to give 80% of yourself has turned in to my high fiber chew of the day. Methinks it is important topic for me this week. Back in October I started a site survey project which looks like it will develop to the next step of remodeling two barns on the property with feelers going out on the potential of developing the property into a conservation research center. We think. It is still too early in the development for clear definition. For sure it has long term potentials worth developing.


By my cPTSD compulsions, I am feeling the urge to push all limits in order to make the most of the opportunity. My "Ought List" has more provisions than a National Budget. Herstorically, that much enthusiasm ends in a crash and burn from trying to do too much at once. Giving ^it^ my all eventually leaves me drained with nothing left to give.


Equally, the paralysis of procrastination can keep my best ideas from ever seeing the light of day.


Today finds me reviewing ways to moderate the process. Ways to give gently of myself so as to be able to go a distance productively without letting things stagnate into procrastination.


Thoughts welcome.

patti22
patti22
Best of luck with your projects. (Only comment is that through experience of friends...is get a pest inspection before putting any money into an old barn.)
DanceStrong
DanceStrong
Happy Chewing. I hope something productive comes out of it, and I hope my post did not disturb you. I have not mastered this skill set, but I'm working on it right along side of you. My best guess, try to plan a flexible schedule for how and when to get things done. Maybe you can do a lot at a moderate pace and just have the project for a long time. Best Wishes!
Community LeaderLeo
Leo
It's a peculiar thing, but if it's a physical project, likea remodeling or similar, I tend to find my balance fine. It's my emotional projects that suffer. *sigh* Or my self-care projects.
Point being, why not indulge the full "unlimited budget and unrealistic expectations" and write up a project management plan based on those... And then work *backwards*? That helps me. I get very happy with my highlighters. Yellow is "essential", and pink is "very optional" and green is "review after we re-do this with all the pink stuff out of it and the yellow stuff in it". Messy, but so is my brain.
Or, y'know, ignore me.
Supportive vibes. It's a long chew....
Spiral
Spiral
Well doesn't that souND familiar? I do the same thing...either trying to do to much or not doing much at all. Got to find that happy medium especilly when doing to much...it is exhausting.

I wonder if a list of things to do would help moderate you? Break you project up into bite sized pieces and stretch them out so you do not over do it or under do it.

It will keep it on track and you too.

Good luck
arfie
arfie
Much to the contrary of upsetting me, Dance. One of the most helpful pieces I find in my peer support network is the way other people's puzzling so often helps me notice things I should have noticed all along. This is one of them. This would be a *typical* time for me to slide off into a manic frenzy. My herstory is full of enough of those to have earned me a "Manic Depressive" (now Bipolar) dx before the PTSD dx was available. Modulating my energy is a good thing for me to be thinking of at this stage of my own strictly personals. I thank you for the reminder.

So far, so good. Even with all the modulating breaks, it is unfolding smoothly so far.

Thanks for the support, guys.
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