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Today, for the umpteenth time, my family abusers got a surrogate to try to contact me at work for them against my express wishes through my lawyer.
I broke off all contact with family member abusers from 1992-2000 and got a lot of PTSD recovery done for myself.
I tested out whether it meant I could reconcile with them from 2000-2010, but never got an apology or an honest conversation from them. Instead, there was a lot of trying to stick their noses into my relationship with my psychiatrist. Finally, I had to break off contact again for my own good.
It's been four years now, and my family abusers will not quit trying to stick their noses in my business. Since 2010, they have tried to get into my business at work a lot. They sent a "family friend" who was former FBI to my workplace to nose around. I reported him to HR and got a lawyer after him and that stopped.
So I'm fine. I now how to have good boundaries. It really helps to keep them away from me. But they don't stop. It is in their basic nature not to stop. Today they had a distant cousin I haven't heard from since the 1990s contact me at work for them. Some people live to manipulate. It's the only life they have.
Anybody else have any good stories to tell?
I broke off all contact with family member abusers from 1992-2000 and got a lot of PTSD recovery done for myself.
I tested out whether it meant I could reconcile with them from 2000-2010, but never got an apology or an honest conversation from them. Instead, there was a lot of trying to stick their noses into my relationship with my psychiatrist. Finally, I had to break off contact again for my own good.
It's been four years now, and my family abusers will not quit trying to stick their noses in my business. Since 2010, they have tried to get into my business at work a lot. They sent a "family friend" who was former FBI to my workplace to nose around. I reported him to HR and got a lawyer after him and that stopped.
So I'm fine. I now how to have good boundaries. It really helps to keep them away from me. But they don't stop. It is in their basic nature not to stop. Today they had a distant cousin I haven't heard from since the 1990s contact me at work for them. Some people live to manipulate. It's the only life they have.
Anybody else have any good stories to tell?
The stories aren't good... they are what nightmares are made of.
I'm sorry that your family is still doing this, Muji. I can relate, for sure.
I told my one aunt if they didn't back off, I'd break her fu**ing nose just to shut her up.
Admittedly, I was at my beloved Polish grandma's funeral when they showed up to try to yammer at me some more.... my mom's bro was right there like, "WTH are you doing here?" (Go unk!)
That said, I've never broken a nose in my life, nor hit anyone with a fist but my own leg. big roar, tiny tiny claws, that's me. Why do you think I lend out my roar? Got plenty of it.
In a weird way, I think they want someone to confirm they're not as effed up as they are. In my fam at least. "See, if XYZ agrees and helps, it must be okay we're doing ABC!" Uh, no...
On a funny note--as in amusing---oh, ifyou'd seen that aunt's face! She went purple. "How dare you turn your back on your family!" And I said, "We haven't seen you since Dad died. Some family," and walked away. Oh, that happy moment of having the right comeback at the right time! I cherish that moment of roar....