I have the intuitive talents of a dirt clod, and I still get shakes similar to what you describe. I tremble in enough different scenarios that I believe it has more than one source. I believe mine are connected to my hyper-vigilance and repression. The hyper-vigilance causes me to conjecture (attempt to intuit?) threats and the repression turns me into a trembling time bomb.

Is this where you were trying to go with this?

Sorting with you. . .

Yes Arfie, thank you for straightening out my words. It's hard to describe something you don't understand lol. I don't believe I have repressed memories but my body does some talking of it's own around certain people and places. Those shakes tho, I'm so sorry it happens to you often, I can only remember it happening twice and it was pretty bothersome. Are they visible or is the tremble within?

i've had them and they had to have been visible. i'm trying to remember if i was in my therapist's office or we were on a phone session... i think it was over the phone that time. i could not believe how hard i was trembling.

she told me it was a good thing because it released toxic stuff from my body after i'd been able to talk about it.

some of the stuff i hadn't ever been able to say before.

i have had some emotional flashbacks and they don't connect to anything in my now. they are very confusing when they happen. it seems like i am feeling someone else's extreme emotions or something like that.

Omg Lilly yes, like where the F are these coming from sounds about right...hugs

I honestly don't know if they are visible to others or not. The fuse on my flight reflex is short enough that I am never around long enough for others to take a solid inventory.

These days tremors are high on my strictly personal list of psycho nag flags which call for me to drop everything and begin immediate therapy work. They are a sign that I am on the brink of going, "Boom."

I bought a book on this topic that was suggested by other members here last year that may be of some interest to you and your counselor, I don't know. It's:

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
by Bessel A. van der Kolk

"A pioneering researcher and one of the world’s foremost experts on traumatic stress offers a bold new paradigm for healing"
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18693771-the-body-keeps-the-score?from_search=true&search_version=service

It may validate what you're saying, jen.

I literally still get the shivers holding my kids.

In other really emotional positive and negative events...the same.

I've never murdered anyone, but once a bicyclist pulled right in front of me and stopped (apparently wanting to turn left). I knocked him off of his bike seat, but didn't injure him or his bike (that I know of). He road off and I sat in the street until other cars honked at me. I was still shaking an hour later...for a second I really did think that I had killed him. (Although it was his fault.)

Mmm... I had the shakes during a police interview to describe the crime. Can't help feeling it was like one of those zebras who had just evaded a lion shaking off the stress. Never felt dirty after that you know, so must have healed something emotionally.

I also found even seeing a female therapist that it was highly threatening to me. In the beginning she'd walk around the round alot, I text her telling her to just sit down. I think from what she said she interpreted that as controlling so fought my control by doing it more the next season except this time she stood over me

This completely spazzed me out I stopped breathing and I get froze. She then sat a foot away from me seeing she had freaked me out then sat away from me. After a while I breathed again had tears and shook. She never did walk around the room again

But I should have seen it as very ominous, her instinctive reaction to hearing she was causing me pain and my asking her to stop it was to do it loads more.

She eventually triggered such immense pain for me that she drove me psychotic

I guess I only put up with her behaviour because I thought it was unreasonable of me to have my feelings in reaction to her doing something that was under her control. I assumed she was an expert and she was trying to change my reactions or remove the button by pressing it all the time. I guess tbh I just knew I was in the shit and that I had to get strong enough to survive the ending of her "help" and all other professional help. As soon as I was strong enough I finished that therapy but boy did I suffer bad in doing it and leaving it. The psychosis caused by her shit therapy is still with me ten years on. Luckily the nhs after five years of permanent deeply unconscious distress did give me another dose of therapy that undid the seemingly permanent I was in.

I guess what I'm trying to say is... Are you sharing difficult things that make you shake from the relief if letting the stress reaction go
Or did your therapist push your buttons?

If your counsellor is regularly pushing your buttons even if you don't think you should be having upset feelings in reaction to it, and want to have a change in your reaction.
I suggest leaving asap.

I was told by her that therapy would avoid talking about my traumas until I had learnt to cope with my distress.
Yet all she did was traumatise me multiple times a week

This path is not the solution

Try a different path buddy