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ristaystrong2
ristaystrong2

my sister got mad that she was giving everyone else mix signals and because mom was going help out on getting us a house cause my sister was going to come live up near my mom and i live with my mom i'm only 19 but I was going to move in with my sister to start out which my parents are fine if I live with them still so my mom said she needed an answer so i went on to skype to ask my sister about it and she gets pissed if i ask one little question about it because her plan was to get a job full time and for me to take care of her kid while she's working full time and she doesn't get that i need an answer because i'm planning everything out over the summer in order to take care of her kid so she doesn't get on my mind it does affect me cause i'm planning out my whole education for the next year around her kid and so then she tells me now no we aren't in a position to get a house and i'm like ok well don't snap at me because i'm trying to get answers because i'm planning everything around taking care of your kid and i'm actually trying to plan out stuff for myself and she's like well the answer is no mariah if your going to have a mini meltdown for planning as if we aren't coming up or moving because as of right now then that's how it is there and i just said ok goodnight but it's like she's being really mean for no reason she got mad that i said i'm trying to plan out my life It's like i'm sorry but colleges actually have a specific time you need to sign up for classes and then i have times i have to pick of when to go to the class and i can't do that if i don't know what's going on if i'm going to be taking care of her kid or not so now it's not happening so now i can plan out whatever i want but do people get why i'm really mad at her but basically she just said that if we move up there you aren't going to live with us now because of me trying to get answers of what's going on because she hasn't told me anything or anyone else for that matter. 

jewells1
jewells1
You and college? Take the jump. Let her worry about her childcare while you work on a better situation for you.
She might be lashing because everything is fine if it works for her, but when it doesn't?
I know the "family" pressure can get bad, but you live in your skin.
Jewell
LillyPotter
LillyPotter
it sounds like she may have been a really difficult room mate. i like the sound of your going to school without extra drama - go you!!! you are correct that you must have your classes and schedule set up, signed up for and in place way ahead of time - it can't wait for her to be in the right mood or anything like that. it is very much real life business.

good for you for taking care of the business of starting school. hugs
itsm9
itsm9
I've been going to school and I made the mistake of not sticking to my study time and had family members come to stay with me. They were told what my days were like when I had classes and when my studying time was. I made a list to help them help themselves. Even included when and how far I would take them to look for work and or to try to get them set up on their own. This I would have them leave the house with me then drop them off in a different area of town. On days I didn't have school then they needed to be out of the house for the 3 hours of study time I had. When I went anywhere I had them go with me and any place I stopped at I made them apply for work at. It only took 5 days before one person would get in my face and tell me how much no-one likes me loves me or wants me. Then the other would do the same later. They took turns though out the day making sure each one had said it 10 times each. But then take turns twice a day each to hug me and tell me they loved me. So as you can guess the verbal attacks starting stressing me and then making it hard to study or go to school. I tried to stop the madness from them but they wouldn't leave the house at all. So all and all I had gotten to the point I told them to pack up their stuff and text them the link to gray hound. Telling them I would be taking them to the bus stop at 12:30 pm where they went from there I didn't give a rats a...
I kicked them out too late I was rolling into the worst PTSD Flair up of my life and had other people. Bitching at me for allowing them to treat me that way. Like I needed that right. So now they too are out of my life.
I'm telling you part of my story to tell you that I had to drop my classes and take them next term.
So stand your ground!
Set your classes up remember to give yourself 3 hours of study time for each hour of class time. Set your area up where you plan on doing your study time at . Let all those around you when your study time is done then you will have time to share with them or others..
Stand strong and go far!