Thank-you so much for your post gmasunshine. Ill try to play some games but i never liked them. Ive joined some groups here but a man contacted me and said he had to talk to me and write him at his home address and i just said i only chat here and he dissapeared. That was so weird. Noone here has ever asked anything like that. I had never even spoke to him before.

I agree that this is a great group of folks..... I think forming friendships often takes some time.... I think commenting on posts and sending hugs can help people to get to know us here..... I'm glad that you're part of the group Kathy..... Big hug.......xo

I didnt realize that you were supposed to just send hugs to just anyone. I thought you only sent hugs to ppl who sent them to you. Sure i can do that. I read the post but i usually think whatever i say will sound stupid SunCloud.

Kathy, I don't always reply to posts if I see multiple people covering the same ground. Mostly because I don't want to overwhelm the poster.
If someone says something that has a profound effect on my thinking, a new way of looking at a situation that brings some clarity, I might message or send a hug as a thank you or acknowledgement that they turned some gears for me.
We also have a journal option here that you can set to privacy levels that you are comfortable with. Open ones may give you some good ideas from others on re framing a situation or just hugs and support as you sort your thoughts.
Then there are posts that you can tell there is a lot of hurt coming out of the poster on, or they have had an epiphany a change on thinking...I send various hugs for those too, also to respondents that I feel helped the posting person sort out something.

Virtual hugs are freely given and can brighten your day when least expected.

Note, some who out of the blue ask for personal contact or information to contact you off the board, is not normal. But if you get to know someone well like them, you can use messaging for more individual contact. Some times they become a friend in a very real sense, regardless of the miles, the sharing is a mutual choice.

I have a strong belief.... now. It took awhile to get to here. But I also use music and have been given music in posts that help that gear changing. 5 years ago I was hiding in my basement covering my ears in total fear of answering the door.
Here's one.
Strong enough, Matthew West.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=knuHDPbE5es

Hugs and support
J.

You know Jewel, I dont even know who that guy was, I had never heard from him before. It just came out of the blue. I havent met anyone yet that has ever asked me to write them at home. Not here no one ever has. I felt weird talking to him. I just didnt feel like he belonged here. Im having a hard time accepting everything i guess. I will get used of everything. Its just a slap in the face about my eyes on top of everything else. Like i say i try every idea i hear. The exact right one will hit yet.

I'm new too! Care to be the new girls on the block together? I may not always know what to say but I promise to listen and let you know I'm here for you. And yes deep breaths and breathing in general are always a good idea. Have you ever tried to say out loud a set of numbers over and over? I keep mine on the fridge and tablet. Mine are 7 10, 2, 4, 12' 5 8. It's hard at first and you may have to repeat it several times but each time that feeling comes, mine are like severe panic attacks it gets better, your brain is working on the numbers agnoring your other bodily symptoms. Hang in there kimberly

Hugs
http://www.gocomics.com/calvinandhobbes/1989/04/30

Im really not new but i really would love to be friends. I listen too. We both do. lol Youll find this is such a wonderful place. Everyone supports you and cares. Hummm, i never heard of the number counting. Thats a great idea. Ill have to try that next and see if it works for me too. Thanks Kimberly PS. I hope we can work at becoming good friends.

Thanks Rizen

I don't have friends and I decided it's not worth trying anymore...I don't have regrets I enjoy my solitude and I am a loner anyways. I always believed that friendship is a 2 way street and in this day and age w/tech and texting and emailing, I think the real meaning of friendship has taken its toll.

Im feeling as you do right now Darkside. It seems like ive tried so hard the trying is just knocked out of me. I expected a friendship like there was years ago. No one is like that anymore. Friendships were give and take. They are all take now.

I feel you, friends only put up with it for so long and lovers are even less understanding from my Expeience .

I dont get how things have changed so much. A few years back you could actually trust a couple of ppl. No way now, Everyone is so self centered and is out to get what they can get. Bunn, Who can you trust now?

i have the same issue.. whenever i get depressed and stuff.. my friends scatter.. its hard to find someone who will be there and stick by you during the bouts of illness