I miss all the good stuff. . . What was offensive?

Sorting through unpredictable stresses is pretty high on my own list of reasons to maintain a therapy support network. I sure hope it's okay to do so here. Warning others? ? ? My episodes seldom warn me far enough in advance to warn others. I feel a need to let that part be as spontaneous as possible. When I gotta vent, I gotta vent. I haven't been kicked out for it here yet. Yet. . . I'm hoping that part's okay, too.

I'm not quite sure which sensitive stuff you'r worrying about, but no apology needed in my court.

It was brought to my son's attention that he was traumatized and I don't know whether I should confirm it or play it down. He was young when it happened and he doesn't remember anything, good or bad, about that time. He's 11 now and the birds and the bees are happening and I'm scared telling him something happened to him could mess up what has been a completely calm and oblivious existence. It's also his right to know. I'm so torn.

If you feel like what you're going to write is going to trigger someone, maybe put a trigger warning at the beginning of the post??

That aside, this is a place where you should be able to unload and vent without judgement. So don't feel too bad abut it. I know for myself, I'm fully aware that some of the posts on this site may trigger me. Sometimes I can handle it, but on the days I can't, I just don't come here. Or I'll know by the title that it's something I just can't handle.

All in all, everyone is responsible for their decisions and their reactions to other people's choices.

There is a great book to read with your son called "A Very Touching Book-- For Little People and for Big People" by Jan Handman that will help enable a discussion about boundaries. I'd start there. It's such an overwhelming, tough topic but I'm so glad you aren't ignoring it. Maybe he'll have questions for you if it's been brought to his attention. Forcing a conversation with boys rarely works, I've found.

Yep that's why I took it down, I didn't say trigger warning just jumped right into it without a thought.

jenny, i was thinking about how you felt safe to come and talk about or vent about what you were dealing with and it made me feel good that trusted us to do that with.

that's what here is about. it is meant to be a safe place to figure things out.

i call safe xo

Whatever works for you, jen, taking it down is just as fine as posting it to vent was fine, too. As Lilly says, that's what we're here for--to be a safe place for you to vent. Or not. No apologies necessary, my friend. Much support to you and your son, always.

I can only speak for myself but I didn't find your post triggering. But by the way, do you know that you could edit the heading to add the TW? Either way, I agree with Lilly - it's good you felt safe to come here and process and I don't think you did any harm.

If you feel a need, you can edit a thread of yours and that includes (usually) changing the title, to include TW. That little dropdown triangle thing. And I am glad, too, that you came here and felt safe. :-)

I didn't see it and it happens. The "TW" is always a good idea as others have said. Stuff happens, don't sweat it. hugs

Thank you everyone for the advice and understanding.