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How do I get over this?

katj1952
katj1952
I lived with an abusive alcoholic for almost 20 yrs, it was constant verbal, emotional abuse and chaos. He was hateful and mean, did not care who he hurt, and I was constantly his target. However he also targeted the children and I had to get in between them to protect them, so I was always the protector and peacemaker. That was over 20 yrs ago, I am 59 yrs old now and I can not be around any one who raises their voice, it makes me feel afraid and I want to RUN, I can't deal with any type of anger from any one, I just want to be away from any type of conflict. I don't know what to do. I thought once I got away from his abusive behavior, I would be ok. But that is not the case.
unlivedlife
unlivedlife
It helps me to be around very positive people that truley care about me. I too had a child in a bad marriage and I will do anything to keep her from turning out like me. She is a very happy girl today and has been and it helps me to see her happy. I think I will always have problems with people raising their voices and demeaning others. I just have to get better at walking away. Wish you the best.
bluedragon41
bluedragon41
If someone shouts around you that you know, tell them you have a strong reaction to shouting or anger.
To then talk to this person if you and they are both angry, sit at eye level a good distance from one another. Use "I statements."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I-message