First hugs. I've been there with only one comment on a post or even none at all.

You have to remember that everyone here is just like you, we're all hurting. There are no paid leaders (even the CLs...especially the CLs).

I've learned that I actually get more "help" from what I write to support others, than what gets written to me. (And maybe that's why I've stuck around here so long...) And often when I read over and over and over, about other people going through the same sorts of things that I have...I feel less alone, less stigmatized, and...well it helps...in a way that nothing else really does...at least for me...

In general, people who respond to a lot of other posts, get more responses to their own. But I'd have to say, that I probably reply to 4-5-6 times more posts, than I get in response to my own. As many people log on here and only post a few times, and never stick around long enough to "repay" the favor...that's just how it goes... You'll usually see that CL posts get lots of replies...that's a big part of why they get so many.

I KNOW that it's HARD (sometimes downright near impossible) to do that when someone is deep in depression...but it's just how it goes.

Heartfelt hugs, Patti

Yeah but the day that I joined the depression group I've replied to 10 or more people every day and not even 1 person/9,828 has replied to 15-20 of my posts since I joined (my cries for help) it's no wonder why none of them have gotten better.

I've since then taken most of them down because I felt unwanted and irrelevant to the group.

Also thanks patti

Again, I'm sorry, sometimes it just goes that way.

Welcome and support. I am on break from classes and you caught me. I joined all the groups that applied to my circumstance when I came here and rounded it down to the ones that fit me the best.
Abusive relationship removal is hard enough. Why is the father of what's his name taunting you?
"You were never good enough for...." or "You know..... needs you." or somewhere in between. Either way he has no right in the picture. Have you needed to file a restraining order on the......? Even if you didn't, you can file one on the Dad.
Hugs and support.
J.

"My son did nothing to you, and he loved you" (except the 8 weeks of verbal abuse?!)

"Your a horrific person for leaving him and you know it"

"Your still terrible no matter how much you accomplish"

"You know he needed you so that makes you so much more terrible"

"Did you leave him to become a better harlet?"

"Freak" (walking past me)

(This was just today unlike the last 4 days of harrowing comments)

And I'm not sure if it's reasonable to put on a restraining order just yet.
Unless you think otherwise.....

Tell him his son learned too much from his father to be around.

Good spit BTW! I think you needed that.

If he calls again ask his zip code for the court. Then file if he gets his hackles up.
He's making excuses for how he made his son.

***jaw drop***

Oh girl, you dodged a nuclear bomb with that one! Seriously, every time you go out for a drink (even a glass of water), lift a glass and toast to your escape.

How does his father have contact with you? In person? Text? Is this a small town?

If he's not someone that you run into on a regular basis, then I would just block him on all social media.

If it's a small town, I'd ignore, ignore, ignore. He should eventually get tired and move on, but you have to be meticulous about NEVER responding back to him, not even to say "stop". If you do ever feel the need to say stop, I'd get a lawyer to draft a letter with NO threats in it, or statements of what you'll do if he doesn't stop. Just a simple "Cease and desist" letter. Then ignore (while recording all of his responses).

There's a book called "A Gift of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker that gives great advice. He's drafted security for the Supreme Count, so he's no novice. His opinion is generally not to jump to a restraining order too fast.
http://gavindebecker.com/

I do see him on a regular basis because his son goes to the same high school as me. But I'll try to ignore him and if it doesn't stop I'll consider a restraining order.

Have you told the school counselor's what's going on? And how long has this been going on?

I'm sorry, I didn't realize that you were still in high school.

This really IS crazy behavior for a parent.

Yes I've tried the school counselors (all 5) and it doesn't seem like they've done anything.

Aloha, Skii. 1st I wanna say I'm sorry you went through an abusive relationship and now have to deal with his abusive parent. Based on your description of how the father's been treating you, it's safe to assume that's where the son learned his mistreatment of women :(. I agree that if he doesn't back off soon, then a restraining order might be necessary.

Have you tried the break ups and divorce group, btw? When I had a horrible break up 7 yrs ago (after a unhealthy long term relationship) that group was really helpful. But I noticed many people have left this site when it was updated last year so don't be surprised if some groups are ghost towns. I think it still needs a little time to pick up again.

Sorry you have been feeling ignored. After 40 odd years of using support groups in my own therapy program, I still go through periods of feeling that way. Group dynamics change, I change and my condition changes. The flow of change often leaves me feeling lost and abandoned. It is not an easy obstacle to find my way past. This morning I believe that finding the new fit for each stage of my recovery is a challenge of finding the new questions in addition to finding the new group chemistry to help me through the next phase.

Be patient with the process, Skii. Gentle support while you find your own nich in the network. Gentle hopes that you find your own, strictly personal healing path.