I think you are making sense. We all have moments when life's frustrations invite us to become a place where bitterness collects. The trick isn't pretending those frustrations don't exist. It's noticing when they've moved into our hearts and gently asking them to leave. I like your reminder because it's really about protecting our own peace.

well said, bob. thank you

I find myself jumping on the complaint wagon far to often now. Unfortunately, complaining is like a past time for me. This world is COMPLICATED. Making what we deal with on a daily basis a difficult task. I remind myself all the time to stop the complaining. Deal with it. It does not affect the outcome. Maybe we have to affirm it to ourselves. Then are able to move forward.

empathy, jazzy. "don't be a hate hole" is but one of my latest mantras/affirmations for that very phenom. i don't cry easily, so my tendency is to turn into a bad-word hole when faced with the evil necessities of life. "the sooner begun, the sooner done" is one of my longest running faves.

taking the time to celebrate the completion of a disfavored task is my most effective affirmation.

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how did another word for, "donkey" come to be a less respectable word than "hate?" am i an a-hole for even asking?

I like the concept of "don't be a hate hole." That makes so much sense to me.

I tend to get angry over crying at this stage in life and I like what you wrote as it gives me food for thought.

I have this mantra: Remember if it doesn't bring you love, peace, or positive energy, stop engaging in it. Seems like when we get to be a hate hole, we are own own worst enemies bringing in our own negative energy.

Your children that you are raising give you such love but caregiving small children is no small task. It is a day full of activity and trying to be positive as a role model to them. Give yourself some love for being their safe place.

I like the concept of "don't be a hate hole." That makes so much sense to me.

I tend to get angry over crying at this stage in life and I like what you wrote as it gives me food for thought.

I have this mantra: Remember if it doesn't bring you love, peace, or positive energy, stop engaging in it. Seems like when we get to be a hate hole, we are own own worst enemies bringing in our own negative energy.

Your children that you are raising give you such love but caregiving small children is no small task. It is a day full of activity and trying to be positive as a role model to them. Give yourself some love for being their safe place.

Big hug Arf

I sure hear you as well

When I'm struggling with depression it can become a daily state of mind

Finding ways to dig myself out of it can seem overwhelming at times but is surely possible

You have so much on your plate

I believe words are very powerful

I usually turn to faith for help

'Don't be a hate hole' is a really good idea...xo

hmmmmm..... could i say that those depressed days i can't seem to shake are days where i am swimming in my hate holes?

as i typed that question, my mind's eye visualized what a hate hole might look like. the visualization got me swimming for shore. . . post haste. where's that lifeline i snubbed when it was offered?

For sure....I feel despair during those days