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arfie
arfie

my social anxiety is paralyzing me on the score of establishing a social network in the new life which was haphazardly thrown together in the domestic cataclysms 3 years ago and covidically isolated for most of the time since. the needs of my 3 orphans have kept me circulating within the new community, but i have had zero connection for my strictly personal social and therapy needs. opportunities are starting to present, but i am finding fatal flaws in each and every one of those opportunities. keep your mask on, socially distant one. thanks, but no thanks.


this morning finds me pulling a tool i haven't used in a while. i call it, "the finger pointing meditation." when i point a finger at someone else, there are 3 fingers pointing back at me. in this exercise, i vizualize the person i am rejecting in a chair in front of me. sometimes i use a photograph to aid with the vizualization. i then point my hoary finger of blame at the person and let the blame rip. you are just. . . you should never. . . how dare you. . . yaddah yaddah through the blah de blah. . . allowing myself to get brutal in the blame gaming helps me focus the issues.


i then lift my hoary finger of blame to focus on the three fingers pointing back at me. there is where i find the solutions.


am i making sense? thoughts?

Community LeaderLeo
Leo
Yes, you make sense.
arfie
arfie
thank you, leo. my psychotic breaks have taught me that all too many of my most brilliant enlightenments make zero sense to anyone around me. reality checks are a critical part of my therapy maintenance.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Makes sense to me, too, arfie.
arfie
arfie
thank you, muji. it isn't always easy to know when i am making sense.
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