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exing ex'es

arfie
arfie

today i am once more faced with a struggle which has plagued me my entire life: saying good-bye to a family member's ex. in my own heart, family is family, whether i like the person, or not. by the divorce tradition, ex'es are no longer members of the family and? ? ?


family is about being complete and i have already amputated more body parts than i can bear to lose. i ought to be used to it by now, but it seems to hurt worse with every new bulge in the ex-box.

Community LeaderLeo
Leo
Puma purrs of support.

When my sis died someone asked why I cared since she and I didn't get along. I still feel the slap of those words 30-plus years later.
arfie
arfie
steadying support on your grief, leo. i hope healing happens here.

i am glad to say this woman is still breathing and i love her dearly. i will miss her and wish her many years of continued growth.
Community LeaderLeo
Leo
I too hope for healing.
arfie
arfie
healing hopes for all. no exceptions.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Your mention of saying goodbye to a family member's ex brought to mind how I had to say goodbye to my mother in law in both of my divorces. It hurt, it still does. I had to sever contact with my own biological family for safety reasons concerning their recurring domestic violence even on holidays. So since I wasn't in contact with my mother after she was arrested, then having a mother in law meant a lot to me. Losing a mother in law not once but twice was hard. I try to look on how hard it was as being indicative of how close we'd gotten, though, and that's not a bad thing.
lilmissy7
lilmissy7
Gentle hugs Arfie <3 <3 <3
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