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Double Whammied

arfie
arfie

First Whammy:


Anniversary today. It is my mother's 87th birthday and the 17th anniversary of the emergency triple-bypass surgery which kept her breathing for 17 years in a state run nursing home. 17 years since she has been able to lift her 400 pound body from bed on her own. Her nursing home is 1800 miles from where I built my safe haven after the "Therapy Funeral" in August of 1977. I have visited her a few times, but am nowhere near to sufficient healing to participate in her care. You sold my childhood to sexual perverts, Mommy Dearest. I may need more than a single life-time to recover from that one.


Second Whammy:


The FIL, also around 87, fell and broke his hip yesterday. His private nurses rushed him from his personal estate to the finest hospital in Houston. He is scheduled for hip surgery today. Hubs wants to be there for the surgery but is having enough back pain that he is not sure he can handle the driving. I will be driving him. I am bracing for the dance with hovering private nurses and cultural traditions that remain obscure absurdities to my senses.


Sure wish I knew what to expect from my own emotions today. I plan to carry a range of therapy tools with me. Hopes of covering all contingincies. . .


Prayers (by whatever name) appreciated.

2magicman
2magicman
Sorry to hear all that is going on with you. That's alot on your plate right now. Sending hopes and prayers your way.

{{{{ BIG HUGS }}}} Scott
Community LeaderLeo
Leo
Lending you what tools I have. It' anniversaries and traumas here as well. My puma paw to your heart, Arfie.
silverlight
silverlight
arfie,sorry for all the weight you are carrying....prayers and support.
LillyPotter
LillyPotter
sending my prayers right away and continuing, covering you in feathers - of the emotional type too, easy on you, hugs
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
It might be stating the obvious, but maybe there's a commonality between caring for the fil and being aware of not caring for mom, I don't know. In any case, you're doing what you can for the one you can attend to, so good for you. Drive safe, and much support to you as you're the best support you can be to your hubby and his father.
jewells1
jewells1
Sending Prayers of my kind arfie.
patti22
patti22
Hugs, take a book. You can always try to escape to the lobby to read and/or surf the net. And I'll be thinking of your FIL.
arfie
arfie
Holding steady so far. We did get to have a fairly nice visit with hubs's brother and his wife in the waiting room. The hovering nurses are a seriously oppressive presence. They sure got me remembering the recent "fawning" dialogue we had here. These ladies are serious fawners. The three of them surrounded the bed with such intensity that it would have required an football offensive team to clear the field for mere family members. No blood relation ever got past them. They looked like they were too busy competing with each other to notice the family was being left out entirely. The words "professional ethics" kept popping into my head as I watched the show.

This is me, running for the safety of my own business. Hubs and I are still in Houston, holed up in a motel room, trying to decide what to do next. Onward through the confusion. He sure is hurt.

Thanks for the support, guys.
irishwriter
irishwriter
good thoughts and good energy sent your way. I hope your husband can work through this too. sounds like you are so much better off without Mom! tough though, i feel it every time there is a family occasion and i am left out. they all suddenly stopped talking to me a few years ago and pressing charges against my brother for childhood abuse has not helped. the ostriches continue to keep their heads in the sand. big fat hugs to you during all of this.
Doo
Doo
I so hope things get better for you!
rubyblue
rubyblue
Hugs of support and strenght
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Huge hug of support, peace and calm sent along with some love Arf... You and your family are in my prayers...xo
Zoe
Zoe
Hugs of support and prayers for you and your family.
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