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DIL - MIL Transition

arfie
arfie
One of my sons has proposed marriage. He and his fiancee have been spending more and more time at my house. We started yesterday with the formal agenda of facilitating the discussion of my son's schizophrenia. My son is still early in the process of learning how to discuss it and asked for our help. We did so over lunch on my theory that discussing our mental illnesses should be as casual as discussing little Johnny's trouble with homework. It seemed to go well.

Internally, I am projecting and conjecturing like a mad dog. My mind is replaying every round of mother-in-law bashing I have ever witnessed, including my own problems with my own MIL. I am feeling urges to reject before I can be rejected. Let us fast-forward to the inevitable name-calling and character assassinations!

Looking for ways to calm the inner turmoil so it can unfold of its own accord, free of my manic expectations.
deleted_user
deleted_user
For what it's worth, I've had two mother in laws and they were both wonderful. Now maybe it's different with daughters, can't really comment, but I think MIL's get an undeserved bad rap, because of the humor in the old cliche' that says no man is ever good enough for MY princess. LOL Take care Arfie, just because you're becoming an MIL, being a mean old lady is NOT a foregone conclusion. And you have a leg up, since you already know how NOT to be. So enjoy your "new daughter", and vent here when you need to, and the world shall be your oyster. Or some such nonsense. ;-)
Hugs.
~theGuardian
arfie
arfie
In my own journey through the madness, my projections and conjectures have more to do with the echoes inside my head than any external realities. They are the stuff of my self-fulfilling prophecies.

When I can calm them internally, the real world has more room to navigate.

when I can calm them internally...

Easier said than done in the echo chamber I carry between my ears.
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