Hey traymac. Right off hand, I would say that denial is a way of trying to accomplish the avoidant behaviors. Do you have a therapist? If so, you should speak to him/her about this and start on some therapy. After all, we can never be any better than we are right now if we don't try to advocate for our own recovery. Take care my friend.

If I avoided the subject then maybe it wasn't there, that's how I grew up. That's denial.in any sense.It just prolonged the inevitable. The table came crashing down because it was overloaded with stuff that I couldn't handle anymore. I ended up in the psyche ward for 3 months due to a breakdown and had to get things sorted out. Then years of therapy and I'm continuing with therapy. Today I'm much better off as I'm more accepting. I've forgiven myself for being the victim and I'm working on forgiving the abuser. It doesn't make sense me carrying around his guilt in my mind. Besides he's dead and nothing can be done for him anymore at this time. Tom

(((((((((((TOM)))))))))) that's a good outlook to have my friend. Hope you have a blessed day. I believe alot of us denied things because it helped to protect our psyche as well. Take care.

both a differant perspective. i dont have a therapist at the moment, tho eventually will. as for denial protecting the psyche, i believe it. maybe if i didn't have denial i would probably be worse off. i see the difference between the 2 now. thanx guys.

Denial was my life for 16 + yrs! And I do have PTSD its the only thing I have ever been sure of other then being pregnant. :) So dont worry its part of it, once you get a dr talk to them about it. Even a reg. dr usually can try and help you with info and such. Good luck I am your average person I had my meltdowns dont we all sometimes?

But PTSD is ok its not that bad at all its only a title for whats going on inside, and its not horrible or going to kill you; may be annoying at times but only if you let it. :)